Why didn't she cry?

Question

I went back to work last week. I went in for two days in a row. The 1st day our 13 months old was with Daddy and the 2nd day she was with her nan. She is obviously uused to her Dad and also her nan as she has been coming over once a week for a few weeks so they could get used to eachother.

When i left for work however she didn't cry. Until I went back to work the longest I had been away from her was about 4 hours. Does this mean she didn't miss me, or what?

Thanks for your comments.

Answer 1

"aww hunni it doesnt mean that at all, it means you have done a fantastic job and your little one is a strong and confident toddler who has developed a strong sense of self and belonging, knows she is loved adn cared for adn knows that you will come back.

you have obviously done a wonderful job with her congratulations"

100% on the dot.  Nothing more for me to say.

-Kyle Sobus

Answer 2

You should be happy that she didn't cry.  Yes she  miss you but she can adapt herself easily. You should be happy that she is such an easy child to take care, not like some children they cry none stop.

Answer 3

Yeah !! Good Job

Answer 4

i work in a nursery and this is a common thing amongs new children who attend...most children will be absolutly fine on there 1st and second days..maybe more...but when the reality of what is happening sets in after these few days the child will scream the place down...some children settle easier than others...you daughter probably dosnt relize as of yet what is going on but im sure over the next couple of days she will...if this dosnt happen dont be dishartened its probably more a case of her feeling comfortable and content where she is not the fact that she couldnt care less wether or not you go.

Answer 5

she is just telling you that she is happy

she is obviously content being left with nanny and daddy

it would be a lot harder for you to leave her if she was crying , you should be pleased . she sounds like a very settled child and yes she does LOVE you xx

Answer 6

That is a sign of a contented baby that trusts you 100%, you should be proud of her. If she thinks that you are happy to leave her there, then she is happy.

Of course she misses you, I bet she was full of smiles when you came back for her!

Answer 7

it means she is a well adjusted child and you are a great parent

Answer 8

aww hunni it doesnt mean that at all, it means you have done a fantastic job and your little one is a strong and confident toddler who has developed a strong sense of self and belonging, knows she is loved adn cared for adn knows that you will come back.

you have obviously done a wonderful job with her congratulations

Answer 9

My son is 15 months old and prefers to stay with my dad or my younger sister. it is a good thing she doesnt cry. it means she feels safe where she is but she still loves you so much! dont worry about it. take advantage of this. as i do when i need a break i know he will be fine with my little sister taking him to the park and although she is 13 my son still feels safe. good luck and hope all is well!

Answer 10

dont worry, of course she missed you, i know for a fact my 2 (ages 2 1/2 and 1 1/2) both ask for me all day yet when i come home from work they both tell me i should be at work and get really upset when i come home. now that makes you feel s**t, but i know they are just a little confused after being told daddy is at work all day

Answer 11

dont worry! youve raised a good un! my oldest never got upset if i was walking out the door or left her at nursery, you may just have a confident little madam on your hands!

Answer 12

No, she is happy to be left with these people. She obviously feel's very secure and know's you are coming back. make the most of it! It may be a different story when she starts pre-school!

Answer 13

Noo it just means she's fairly independent and had a good time with her other relatives =)

Answer 14

she cried because you are her mum and she knows that and she probaly is felling wired around eveyone else becuse all she whants is you and thats all

Answer 15

no its not that she didnt miss you, it is just that you have chosen the right people to take care of your daughter, she obviously feels comfortable and loved with both her dad and her nan.

I am sure she did miss you but she was fine with the love she was getting from her dad and nan, i am sure that if you were still away when it came to bed time then the tears would have started then.

Answer 16

kids like to be with other people sometimes as well as there mum...i have 4 kids and if i have them looked after  for a few hours or one eening they are fine...they stay with their nana or their grandma, but when i went to hospital last year and had to stay in for a few days the kids all got very teary because it was so out of the ordinary and they couldn't understand where i was and no matter how much their dad explained, they really missed me...and when i came back out they became clingy for a while aswell. i was quite shocked because they had never seemed to be bothered before, but a few hours is nothing, just a break or even a treat...it is not good for a child to just be dependent on one person anyhow...but i guarantee you if you went for a couple of days your kid would be just so different so just be glad she can  except being with someone else for short periods of time and that you have that chance...nothing more heartbreaking than walkng out the door and your kid crying their eyes out because they dont want you to go

Answer 17

You've done a good job raising a secure little girl. How great it is to be loved and feel secure around adults other than mommy. Consider this a blessing

Answer 18

no she loves you but you must have done a good job with her as she feels comfortable in you leaving and she will know you are coming back. Please don't worry you are doing a good job !!

Answer 19

I work in child care when mums first leave child with us they all get upset if child cries mum cries if child does not cry Mum is upset as child is not worried about mum leaving  it is a no win situation  Just be pleased your child is secure in the knowledge that she can depend on you to make sure she is being well looked after and that you will be back

Answer 20

aww its probably just because she was with people that shes familiar with whereas if you left her with people she didnt know she would probably cry

Answer 21

Well don't get depressed about it. Obviously she feels secure with her Nana and doesn't think you're abandon her. In fact you should be glad she isn't too attached because it would be hard on her for her first day of schools and such things. She still loves you. The only day you should start worrying is when she calls her Nana Momma and not you.

xoxo

-Blah

Answer 22

Yeah sick of the sight of ya

Answer 23

She didn't know you were going for hours! You might have been popping to the car!   She's clearly happy with Daddy and Nanny so no problem!!