Why do Asians FOB's not socialize and be friends with their roommates, if their roommate is a westerner?

Question

I have lived in many different places and had roommates for all around the world such as, American, Mexican, Indian, Australian, European, Russian, Arabs, Africans, and Asians. The only roommates on numerous different occasions that won't socialize with me are Asian FOB. They treat me as a stranger living with them, and they eat in their bedroom and never come out. I feel as if every man for himself, why don't Asian Fob's loosen up and enjoy life a little with people who are from different races. Is it because they are racist? Is it because I am not from there country? Is it because they live in fear in a western country? I don't understand why they leave there country in the first place if they are not going to accept and learn the culture of the country they are in.

Asians that grew up in a western country are not like that Asian Fobs.

I don’t want answers in defense of Asian Fobs; I just want to understand Asians FOB's and why they think there culture is superior to all cultures?

Answer 1

I'm a Pakistani. An Asian . I studied in London for 2 years, and plan to go to USA in a couple of months. And i have loads and loads of western guys and gals as friends . V always hangout and party and stuff. V socialize and its always a party every saturday. I even have a grlfrend there. and shes a wsterner, born in Manchester. so what ur saying is RONG ! in my case atleast.

U can NEVER generalise !

Answer 2

Understand that silence is golden, silence in some cultures is a sign of respect.  Add shyness, timidity with your language fluency, and not wanting to insult you, or embarrass themselves. Compound that with being raised to be seen not heard and you have explanation of why Asian Fobs do not open up as you wish them for you.

The nice aspect of all this is that they mean you know offense, they hope to maintain your privacy by being less a nuisance to your space and time, while fulfilling their mission for being in your country. In a sense, its a win-win situation for both of you.