Why do I always do this?

Question

Whenever I get a boyfriend or get really close to a guy, I almost always feel uncomfortable. There's only been like one time where I've had a good reason to feel like that, but the rest of the times, I don't. I don't understand it, but for some reason, I always make relationships more complicated than they really are. Instead of just going out with someone I like that likes me back and being happy with it; I end up making myself feel weird or uncomfortable about it. For some reason, I always find myself doing this.

Why do I do that? And what can I do to stop?

Thanks,

~~Ali. :)

Answer 1

where you touched unapproiately when you was younger?

Answer 2

First you have to think to yourself, am I ready for a new relationship?,if yes when you have a boyfriend take it easy for  a while you don't need to rush, just like the song Jordin Sparks sing "One Step at a Time" if you don't know it then go on Youtube and search it there and then you will know what it means.

hoped i helped=)

Answer 3

I do that also. I think I am just freaking out about whether the person still likes me how i like them. I really think the only way you're going to stop feeling like this is when you are truly in love with them, and completely trust them. good luck

Answer 4

the relationship is moving too fast!  You need to slow down and get used to the person before you can be really close.  You have all the time in the world, don't rush things.  If he really likes you, he will understand and respect you more for it!

Answer 5

I used to do that too.  You probably aren't meshing well with that person.  I always thought I was too picky.  I would get that weirded out feeling and pull away.  Then I found my husband.  Of course at first I was on my guard, but slowly things just felt right into place. I never felt that he wasn't right for me or that I was making a wrong decision.  Being picky is a good thing.  Most people just settle to be with someone.  

Answer 6

Were you abused as a child?

Answer 7

It happens to me too! i thought i was the only one who felt like this. i have no clue what to do. my bf of 8 month just broke up with me bcuz of it

Answer 8

    your thinking of the end of the relationship.instead of the beginning of it.and your partner can sense that,then no matter what you do, you will never enjoy a relationship.enjoy the moment.dont think down the road.

Answer 9

I do that same thing. I eventually break up with him, not because he is a bad boyfriend or was mean, or anything like that, just because I like pick at stuff and make everything difficult. I've gotten better with it, you just have to realize that YES he does really care about you and you need to take a chill pill! Just be happy and care-free, that's the best advice I can give you.

Answer 10

dont worry

you jsut havnt found the right guy yet

dont worry

you will eventually

ive been wiht many guys myself

but yeahh

still havne tfoundt he right 1 yet

Answer 11

because, maybe your just too nervous and u have to get used to being around guys and get comfortable. try having a normal conversation with a guy, or just try to act normal, after u get comfortable u'll probably get used to hanging around guys.

Answer 12

If you feel someone is not for you...don't stay with them.  I will tell you what....I am an attractive male and I am very smart and I am successful....guess how many girlfriends I have had in my life? 3.  I hate relationships.  I love being around girls with NO pressure.  What's the point of doing something if you don't like it?  Your goal in life is to be happy, right?  Just because being in a relationship is the norm doesn't mean it's the way it has to be.

Answer 13

You have trust issues...

just let go and try not to worry... learn to trust the guy!

Answer 14

i always feel uncomfortable in relationships to for some reason....

Answer 15

loook it up in wikihow.com

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Answer 16

In my humble opinion, gained from life experience being the guy dating women who go through the same thing, you fear being hurt.  So instead of allowing the guy to get close to you and possibly hurt you if it should ever come to a painful end, you beat him to the punch and cut him off and cut him out.

I was very close with someone who had a past of painful relationships.  She was very open in her fear that I would end up to not be the great guy I try to be and hurt her like all the others.  So, instead of taking the chance on us, which I still believe would have worked, she jumped ship and cut me out of her life.  I know that from her view, she was scared I would hurt her, and instead of risking that, she ended it.

Answer 17

ME TOO!!! I think it's because you're either not used to it or you don't trust him. I don't know really. You just have to keep communication and trust him.

Answer 18

Thinking too much, over analyzing? worrying? Its normal i think for a girl, lots of girls anyway.