Why do I always feel rejected by my Mum??

Question

Im 12 Years old, and Im 13 In December. This is the 6weeks Holidays right, and so far my Mum hasn't even taken me out once or offered for me to go to her House. By the way, to make things less complicated, I live with my Grandma and Grandad. [ My Mums Parents], and I have lived with them since I was born. My Mum lived with me till I was 9, [ Dad and her split up then, Mum and Dad lived with Gran and Grandad, with me]. My Auntie [Mums Sister], always takes me out when she's off work. [ When its her days holiday], and for some reason I always have a better time with my auntie than I do when being with my Mum. When I was 9 my mam met somebody else and decided to go and live with him. Within 3 Years, she had 3 Kids to him. [ My Half Brothersand Sister]. Now, I just feel so unhappy and rejected by her. In my eyes I see her as an Evil ***** who doesn't care about me. My Mum knows this 15 Year Old Girl who she isn't even related to, and she just uses her[ You know to get the jobs done around the house], but I thought that my mam was done with her and wanted to be with me. This girl is called Jade and every time I ring my Mam[ She never ever rings me], she is always busy making up sad excuses, has jade around, or would rather be with her ill minded Boyfriend. As for my Dad, he is married to another woman, and lives far away with her, but he always rings me and comes to see me whenever he can. I actually love my Dad more than my Mam. Everytime I ring my Mam, I always end up putting the phone down, and then I get so angry, I start to burst out crying. Please help me with this situation because it really needs sorted. [No stupid answers plz].

Answer 1

Some people just shouldn't be parents. Your Mother is one of them. But it sounds as if better people than her really love you. I know it hurts to deal with her and it is hard to forget that she is your mother but she is the one who is losing out.

Enjoy your grandparents, your father and your aunt....they are your real family. And never judge yourself based on her opinion....'cause she sounds like a jerk anyway and she obviously doesn't know that much in the first place.

Grow up an succeed that is the best revenge.

Answer 2

Well ( Jacqueline J) I'm really sorry to hear about that, u seem like a very nice little girl but your mum is busy with her other husband and other kids and she just forgot her first little girl from her first husband, I've seen a lot mum's or dad's like this, its really something very bad, from the way I see it, there is no real solution for this, cuz I guess no matter what u did she wont pay attention to u, cuz she just forgot all about her little girl, so in the end its all up to ur mum, so I think in this situation the best thing to do is enjoy ur life with ur Grandma and Gran dad, and ur lovely auntie, and ur dad seems to be nice whenever he have time he comes to see u or takes u out, so just forget about ur mum and live ur life normally, cuz no matter what u did she wont give u more attention or care more about u, but believe me one day she is going to regret about all of that and she will come to u and say I'm sorry, sometimes we don't realize the real value of something till its over, when she get older she will realize that.

so all I'm saying is that u should keep going on ur life, u cant let this thing affect u, u have people around u who loves u and care about u, sure they wont be like ur real mum but they would take care of u as much as they can so try to enjoy ur time with them or ur friends whenever u r outside and

All my best wishes and gd luck to u from all my heart, wish if there is something more I can do to make u feel better.

All I'm gonna say is that god bless u and keeps u safe and wish u have all what u dream about and ur life will be full of happiness and Joyful moments, Dont Forget the most important always Take Care

in case if u needed anything or any more help, just feel free to contact me at anytime, u can E-mail me or IM me through yahoo messenger.

Have a Nice day and Smile :)

Answer 3

I agree that some people should not be parents. But its a really hard job coming to terms with this kind of thing, as I have had to. I'm 40 now and even today the neglect of my mother affects me.

I urge you to get counselling or support so that you can get on with your life. You're at an age when you have to make life choices soon AND when you should be getting ready to have a lot of fun. Talk to someone and get it clear in your head that you deserve better. AND make sure you do it secretly as if your mother is anything like mine she will try to twist things so that you are the guilty party.