Why do I always feel this way?

Question

When ever I fail something like a test, I feel stupid, ugly, useless and feel like committing suicide. When I pass a test or something, I feel really good. I really don't get it.

Answer 1

You're placing too much of your self-worth in tests.  Why do you do that?  Is it because you're being pressured to by your parents or yourself?  If it's because of yourself, why is it that failing a test amounts to out-and-out, total failure in your mind?

The simple fact is that a test is a test: you pass some, you fail some.  Even people who graduate school with "perfect" grades have at some point or another failed something, in school and in real life.  It's simply the way the world works.  We're imperfect, and no one is an exception to this rule.

When you feel those dark emotions coming on, remind yourself - consciously - that there is *no* reason to come down so hard on yourself and that you are not a failure, or even failing.  Take that negative energy and put it into studying so that next time, you'll get a result that makes you happy, instead of dwelling and harping on your mistakes.

Answer 2

You may not feel appreciated enough.  That's just what I think.  You may not also have the support you might be looking for when you do pass a test or do well.  

I know you're not looking for advice, but I would like to suggest you try to not put so much importance on your test taking skills.  I'm not saying don't worry about it, but you should learn to see a failed test score as a motivation.  Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Does the teacher you grades in front of everybody if so maybe your embarrassed . If not then maybe you thnk other kids will find out your grade or something. try talking to your parents.  And  mybe because the people you are around everyday are preasureing you way to much to pass and thats all you end up thinking about is passing not the right answers so you end failing. Then you relise that you will have to go home and face those people at home put the presure on you in the first place. JUST TELL THEM  TO STOP PREASURING YOU THAT IS WHY I AM FAILING . So bacicly all the F+ y ou are getting are because of them

Answer 4

well your problem has an easy answer first off u ignant and second u should go kill yourself but do it in the bloodiest way possible and make sure everyone knows especially your parents

    sincerely non ignant *****  

Answer 5

I feel just like that except for the suicide part. so ah its normal except for the suicide part.