Why do I always have to make things better when my husband and I are arguing?

Question

Why can't men suck up their pride and come say sorry for doing something wrong? I swear they teach assholeistry in schools now for guys...ugghhh

Answer 1

I thought it was just me.  I always have to be the one to break the silence.  Ugh!  I don't know....I don't know....but, I feel your pain.

Even if he does something wrong (he scheduled a flight out for work on our anniversary!!!  he works out of state 1 week a month, usually leaves on monday afternoon but had to start early on monday so scheduled flight out on Sunday night  --- would have otherwise been fine, but on our anniversary?!?!?! He didn't tell me, it slipped out, and I got mad.  really mad.  really hurt.) he wont apologize.  At all.   Nothing.

I finally, after crying/fighting, hours of silence ---------- i had to ask if we could make up.

You are not alone, sista!

Answer 2

Why do you have a knack for dating men that are jerkoffs?

Answer 3

you havent met any decent men then .dont tar all men with the same brush

Answer 4

my husband tells me I need to learn that also,the is always making things better,I have that same problem even when I am really sorry for some reason I just can't say it and I don't know why when I do say it I start balling  but I am working on it . tell or husband what mine told me,it takes two to argue and we both did something wrong so we both should apologize.

Answer 5

You are making things into a men vs women thing. It happens to both sexes. It called domination and submission.

Answer 6

just your guy... I am the peace maker in our relationship.. I really get tired of it..  

Answer 7

Everyone has pride... just you're the one that can swallow it and admit when you're sorry. Some people can't...

Answer 8

Great word--assholeistry! :-)  Sometimes it's easier for one member of a relationship to say sorry more than the other.  In our relationship, the person who says sorry is usually my husband.  Every relationship varies.  

I think we just have to do whatever makes the relationship work easier.  If it doesn't bother you to apologize most of the time, then just go with it.  It's not worth arguing over.

Answer 9

Why do you generalize all men, just because your husband is an immature selfish d*ick*head?

Answer 10

Assholeistry 101.  lol good one

Answer 11

I know where you are coming from,I am always the 1st one to say I  am sorry.He thinks he is never wrong.