Why do I attract mean people, especially in jobs I've had. I'm real nice to everyone I work w/, but there ?

Question

always, at every job someone that makes trouble for me. At my last job, I got a phone number of a guy off the employee list and called him. He told someone I called him and that girl found out, went to my boss and told her I got his # from the Personnel Files! I was called into her office. On another job, my boss shot the finger right between my eyes and it turned out her husband liked me. WTF!? Why do I attract psychos?

Answer 1

From what you are saying it looks like the psychos you attract are females who think you are going after their men. How do you relate with the said men that makes these women think that you are after their men? Especially your previous boss? I think these women interpret your being real nice to their husbands/crushes as you narrowing in their territory. Keep things professional at work with both sexes and date outside the office AND not coworkers. It can get messy if you can't keep your personal and professional business separate.

Answer 2

Are you weird??

Answer 3

The secret is to your best at work.And leave the personal lives of others alone.

Answer 4

I seem to fall into the same problems- I think what we need to do is just put our foot down and stop being so nice! I suppose there is a time to be nice and a time to be firm. Just don't put up with it, it sounds like you're pretty good looking so don't let the beeps jealousy get to you. Good luck.  

Answer 5

Maybe that what you think because of the problem you had with the Boss's husband!

Anyway generally "mean people" sometimes find people who are nice to everyone especially attractive....

So you might have to change the way you "deal" with people you don't know a little bit...

You need to know the personality of the person you are working with to know how to deal with him...sometimes people might think that being nice is a sign of weakness or they might find that especially attractive....    

Answer 6

I guess your just unlucky with co-workers.  Maybe you could look into running your own business?

Answer 7

Part of the problem is that there are many people who need to blame someone or don't have good employee relationship skills.  I think you should not associate with people from work and if you do, meet them after work, but know the good and the bad aspects well, like who is going out with who.  Every job can cause personal problems.  Be careful and alert before you make a move.  Develop a network of friends who can clue you in.  I have had problems myself, and at times I never knew where it was coming from.  You don't attract psychos, you just call out the ones around you; they are always there.  Adults are just children who have grown up physically.