Why do I care about this jerk?

Question

Long story short...I dated a guy and he cheated on me with his kids mom...I stupidly gave him a second chance and he dumped me out of nowhere to go back to his kids mom. (I found this out waaaaay later) He calls me up four months later (I did not know he was with his kids mom the whole time) and basically said he had just needed some space and wanted another chance with me. The truth was him and his kids mom broke up and he was coming back to me.

I found out about the whole thing with his kids mom...and asked him about it, and he admits it. Two days later he claims that he can't be with me because he "has" to go be with her because of her financial problems...LMAO.

Obviously he is a jerk..but it just bugs me...cuz she is a drunk *** ho, with no job and can't get a job because of her prior DUI history. And I am smart and educated and a great girl. I am back dating and have had some really good dates...but I can't seem to go any farther because I can't get this guy out of my head!

Why would I want him? I despise him in so many ways! He is a liar and a manipulator...why can't I move on? I have to see him everyday at work and I feel like I need to get away from him to move on. Any advice?

Answer 1

I have a smiliar situation. You just care about him too much. Maybe he is special.  You will probably move on there are other fish in the sea.

Answer 2

Sometimes as women, we want to be "petted" for lack of a better term. Especially when we're alone, and we start to get "petted", the "petting" feels good and we get blinded by the real situation. Now as yourself, would you allow yourself to stay in someone's back pocket? Would you want to be the back-up quarterback who's only good to call plays if the number 1 woman gets injured? Why would you do that? You shouldn't play second choice to him just because his kids' mother kicked him to the curb (probably what happened). Let him be alone and get his "space" from you ... permanently!!