Why do I constantly worry about my dad?

Question

i'm so worred about how hard he is working and stuff, and paying for my clothes, the bills, and always keeping his spirits up after a hard time with his manager. but im worrying about him to much, about if he suddenly has a heart attack, or if he don't wake up, my mum died when i was 10 so its putting pressure on me, im 15 now. but still.

Answer 1

Worrying does not change anything.  I'm sorry you lost your mother at such a young age--that must have been really hard on you.  Your father is just doing his job and fulfilling his duties as a dad as he knows how.  He would not want you to worry about him.  Just be there for him if he wants some support; but I think if you are happy and well-adjusted, that would mean more to him than anything.

Answer 2

Worrying about your father is completletly natural, espically after losing your mom. It sounds like you have a great father. You are lucky to have him hon. Dont worry to much, unless hes not eating,  or relaxing at all than try to talk to him and tell him to relax a little.  

Answer 3

Aw, baby gurl, you should talk to your dad, maybe talk to a school counsellor?

Take Care, don't be so hard on yourself! Your only 15..  

Answer 4

As long as you are there for him, he will remain with you. If you have siblings, speak to them about being loving and supportive  of your father. If he sees that he has a family to live and care for him, he will stay strong mentally, emotionally and physically.

I am in a similar situation. I live with my brother and father in a 2 story house. My dad gets no respect from my brother at all. I know my brother loves him but he doesn't show it. I feel like I am the foundation of this family. I try to keep everything cheerful but once in a while I break down. All three of us just feel like leaving this world. My father has even said that he regrets having us as kids when he was really angry. I was so afraid he might have a heart attack that day that I started crying and told him to stop. I wrote him a letter about life and how everything will be okay. Moreover, what is keeping us together is his strength and love as a father.The letter made him feel loved and he felt like he had a reason to be alive.  He told us that without us he wouldn't be anything.

So don't worry. The reason he is still there is because of the love he has for you.

Answer 5

start reading you books that will help you reach for better thoughts. I just got one that is new so I don't know if the library has it but keep this title "money & the law of attraction" by Jerry & Esther Hicks....I have a son that died 8 years ago & my other son worries about me.

I understand you worring about you Dad but you are wasting you time. He would feel better is you were focused on enjoying life. Joy is what you purpose is & it will be the best thing you can do for him. I think you worried cause of what you went through. Others worry for no reason but you are in a healing process & it will get better for you each day.

Answer 6

Dads are made of stern stuff , you worry because of your mum, He is out there working for you and will just get on with it , well done for loving your dad, be happy!!

Answer 7

Because he has been such a good dad (probably mum as well)to you. it's only natural you should be worried about him, why don't you sit and have a chat with him about your worries. I am sure he will appreciate that, he will be able to re assure you and you can get on with your studies.

Answer 8

Firstly you are a kind caring person who has a nice heart. Now i think you have so much fear because you have already lost one parent so loss is a reality not an imaginary fear plus being 15 has it's own problems that you worry to much about. I think you should see a councilor or at the least talk to your Dad about your worries. Worrying is ok obsession can change your life  and who you will become. You need to look after you as well. I hope this helps.

Answer 9

awwr, this must be really hard for you :( .you shouldn't think like this i know its hard. the last thing your dad wants is for you to be worrying about him like that. if your really worried about him like that tell him to ease things. you could do things for him to help ease the pressure like cook him his dinner and things, make him drinks, open widows to allow air in, even see if he wants to go for a walk in a nearby park.

if you got a job even if it never paid much you could help him with the bills even if wont pay it all your dad will be so happy you want to help it would relax him knowing he doesn't have to work as hard to make that other bit of money up.

you could tidy up the house, even tidy his room if he will allow you to. just really show him how much it means to your for him to relax. being relaxed is very important and can stop heart attacks. All the small things help.

awr i feel really upset for you, GoodLuck :)

Answer 10

try not to think about those stuff i think that sometimes too but think of happier things and do somthing to keep ur mind busy sorry bout ur mom by the way

Answer 11

im 22 and i lost my mom 2 years ago. it was the hardest thing ever but i stood by my dad 100% and thats all you can do. your dad loves you thats y he prob buys u stuff because he cares so much about you. i would just sit down just you and your dad and have a one to one.

stacy xx

Answer 12

Hard work will make him live longer.  He will live to be 100yrs old, I promise.

Answer 13

It is very normal to worry. But try to love and enjoy every  single moment together... I worry about my mom trust me and its hard I cry sometimes and I am 25 and married... But you  know  my husbands dad lost his father not to long ago and he tells me to enjoy my mother every time I see her love her and stop being sad about what could happen cause she might be here 30 years more ...  We never know what God has planed for us but the best think you and me should do is love them lots and try to make them very happy  

Answer 14

If you asked him, I bet he'd say he wouldn't have it any other way.  Taking care of you is what keeps him going.  Enjoy his support of you.

Answer 15

Hey darling. It sounds like you might be experiencing anxiety. It might be a good idea to have a chat to your school counsellor about this. I am so sorry to hear about your mum. It really must be a lot of pressure for you to handle. Maybe you could also have a chat to your dad and let him know what you are thinking. Let him know that you are worried about him and ask if there is anything you can do to help.

I hope it all works out for you. Take care

Answer 16

Awww....I'm really sorry about your mom.

Just make sure your dad knows how much you love him.  Make him laugh.  Share fun times and good memories and help look after him too.  Do little things for him like help make his lunch and dinner and help with housework etc.

Do what you can to relieve any stress he is under, and if you're really so worried about the money he spends and all tell him you don't need all the things he is getting for you.

Tell him you'd rather just spend the time with him and go for a long walk etc.  That will do a LOT to relieve his stress and keep him healthy.  Make sure he gets a lot of rest, exercise and de-stresses.

Nothing will happen to your dad. I know it's scary to think you'll end up alone but you will be fine.  

Again, take care of your dad, make sure he eats well and rests and laughs...all those things will keep him healthy.  No fatty foods or salty foods and his heart should be just fine.

Answer 17

That's a normal worry to have. It just means you care about him. My dad is obese and diabetic and getting up there (early 60's) so I worry about him a lot.

And it's good that you appreciate all that he does for you. Let him know how thankful you are, that should make him feel a little better.

And if he is really stressing out about his job, make sure to talk to him about it to see if he's just complaining or if he seriously needs a drastic change (such as leaving his job) to improve his quality of living.

In the long term, there's nothing you can really do about his health other than to encourage him to keep in shape, but you can enjoy the time you have with him and realize that whatever happens--it's out of your hands. You should just cross that bridge when you come to it, as worrying won't get you anywhere and any of those bad things are probably waaaay down the line.

Answer 18

Don't worry your dad is ok.  Just be extra nice to him,and make him a meal sometimes when he comes home from work.  He would love that.  My dad paid for my clothes too when i was younger.  Speak to your friends they will listen carefully to all your problems.

Hope evrything will be o.k.  ^_^

Answer 19

yeah my dad died when i was 12 so i feel you...the thing is you have to support him 110 %..i know its hard but you HAVE to...im 14 now, and i still get sad, but you know dont woory about him, he'll be fine...make sure hes eating right, and he'll be fine

Answer 20

You are a very caring sensitive person who puts others before yourself and in dealing with growing up without your mom very hard for any girl at any age you wear your heart on your sleeve....it is time for you to speak your feelings to your dad...he will appreciate your heartfelt words and ease your worries...the world would be so much better with more young people like you...how about you contribute by being a great student, cleaning up and maybe babysitting on the weekends when your homework is done....

Answer 21

the only one putting pressure on you is.....you. you know the best thing to give your dad is him knowing your happy. I dont mean in a fake way but getting on with your life. Your dad would hate to see you get upset like this. He  will be fine. But he will be even better if he knew you were happy. So stop worrying and start living.

Answer 22

I'm sorry to hear about that..

your worrying about him bc u love him. you love him so much u dont wont anything to happen to him..and because of your mom your scared to lose him too..its okay sweetie just pray to God everynight to keep your dad safe..He will answer i promise u that..I know it must've been hard on u whenever your mum died, and u just dont wont it to happen again..This is normal.Whenever I lost my grandmaw all i could do was worry over my grandpaw..I didn't won't him to die like she did.But just because one love one died doesn't mean another one will.

Answer 23

I worry about my dad all the time too. Just try to keep busy to keep your mind off of it.

Answer 24

Is it possible for you to find a job close to home so that you can help out and maybe buy your own things? If not hun you need to talk to your dad and tell him how you feel. He would appreciate knowing that you are worried about him. Good luck and bless your heart and your fathers

Answer 25

oh yeah i know exactly how you feel. i used to worry about my dad all the time. we would go to cedar point and i was worried he would fly out of one of the rollercoasters. idk why but its like every dad has this complex that gets peopel all worked up and worried. well my dad ended up dying (not from a rollercoaster) but its life and worrying all the time will drive you nuts. be happy with the time you share with your daddy cuz anything could happen, to him or even you.

Answer 26

hey, I'm 40 and still worry all the time about my dad.  Its a nice thing you care, but talk to him and tell him how much you love him and think of him every day.  Honey, his is a grown up too, and big enough to look after you and him........just tell him you love him.

Answer 27

its natural to worry about our parents when we see them working hard or ill or under stress, but at the end of the day hes your dad - he does these things because he loves you and he wants to support you.

xx

Answer 28

OMG pAULA! :(

i can totally relate!

my dad is also constantly workin and is always buying me my clothes and my dad also deals with alot of stress ans im afraid something bad will happen to him as well! i pray to god that doesnt happen.

im just worried about my dad as well! i totally agree im.. im it makes me sad!

i wish i can workso he can rest for a while and bring home some money now!

well lets just hope nothin bad happens to my dad or yours.

Answer 29

you are only being normal don't worry we all worry about our dads , well i do anyway i worry that hes gunna die one day which he is of course but i don't know what I'm gunna do i love my dad so much . I look at him and i melt xxxx

Answer 30

Aww, im sorry about your mom =( I lost my dad when I was 12, so I know how that goes... You worry about him because he is your dad, and you love him. You are probably also remembering what happened to your mom, and its making you worry about him. I do the same things with my loved ones.. I constantly worry about them, and if they are out in the car or something I worry that they have had a wreck. Im so paranoid about things like that. Most likely, your dad will be fine, and nothing like that will ever happen... You shouldn't stop worrying about your dad, but just don't worry so much. I think you should talk to your dad and tell him how you feel. It couldn't hurt! He can reassure you that everything is okay.

Good Luck!

xoxo Jadee♥

Answer 31

If you're really worried, you can talk it over with your dad. Usually talking to someone else about your fears can really help you with them. If you're not comfortable approaching your dad about that, you can arrange meetings with a councilor (most schools will have one, but if not you can look online for nearby ones) who you can talk with.

It's natural to fear for the people you love, especially if one of them passed away recently. Just make sure you work your way over your fears, and everything will be fine.