Why do I feel abandoned when I broke it off?

Question

I am very close to my in-laws and my husband. I have no other friends, but trying to reconnect with other people. My relationship with my former best friend got worse when I married.

She and I got along and had so much in common. She would attend events when I provided transportation. When we get together, we have an amazing time. But only when it's "Fun". Anything serious in life, she couldn't deal with.

She never helped with Gas money and wouldn't hang out with me when I didn't offer transportation. I asked her for gas money, she would avoid me.

She never helped me out when she says she is going to. I always tried to help her, whenever I was willing and able to. But I didn't help her ALL the time.

She is still living at home, has no license or car and is in her mid-twenties. It’s like she is waiting for a man to marry her and to take care of her.

I am very independent and cut her off because I felt used and this had been going on for years. We tried to compromise and fix our problems, but they always came back later on.

Even though it was the best thing for me to end the relationship, I feel bad. Why do I feel abandoned, especially when I ended the relationship? I wish I had more friends…

Answer 1

Friends help one another. Not take advantage of you.

Start looking for people who share similar interests and enjoy doing the same things you do. It isn't that tough.

Answer 2

Then go out and make some! Join clubs church volunteer. what do you like to do? Delve into a new hobby, try a part time job, look for old class mates Easier said than done I know but all it takes is trying

Best of luck to you :)

Answer 3

YOU were abandoned emotionally by her long before you cut it off. I had a friend that was the same way. A taker, not a giver. She wanted me to listen to all her problems, drive us everywhere, was rude & wouldnt listen to me (or just interrupt until i gave up), thought she was better, and the list goes on and on. I ended our friendship, but feel she was the one that ULTIMATLY ended it  

Answer 4

You miss her.

Answer 5

Maybe because you were hoping she would come back a changed woman and you could resume your friendship. Face it, she's a user and will take whatever she can get out of you. Friendship is a two way street. Sometimes one friend may depend on the other more for a while, but then at some point they reciprocate. It sounds like she was more of a leach than a friend.