Why do I feel bad about letting my 9 month old stay with her grandparents overnight?

Question

My husband and I just recently had an anniversary, and we asked his parents to keep our daughter over-night so we can celebrate. We are dropping her off tomorrow, and I ALREADY have butterflies about this. However, I know we need some "US" time for just one night! I just wanna know the best way to handle it when we drop her off.

Answer 1

well your just being a mother...

It depends on what your scared of really if its being a bother to his parents or you not satisfied with her safety. Remember his parents did this already and are even more experienced than the both of you so they will have everything under control. I just think you need to relax and in your head just think to yourself oh she's fine and having a good time so I need to have a good time to.

Don't feel bad its just a natural instinct.

Just relax and have a good time =)

Answer 2

This is perfectly normal! But do not feel guilty! Everyone needs some them time, and you sound like you deserve it. So tomorrow when you drop her off kiss her forhead say you will be back tomorrow and leave. Its the only way. And try not to stress all night cause then it will ruin your night.

Answer 3

Bless your heart.. I know how you feel. My husband refused to let our daughter stay overnight with anyone until she was a year old! That first night.. I didn't enjoy myself at all. lol  I just kept wondering what she was doing and if she was ok. It's just part of being a Mommy.  Just remember.. don't feel bad if you call ten times to check on her.. :)

Answer 4

separation anxiety is very common in new mom's or even multiply time mom, I can understand what you are saying, the best thing is to drop her off when she is asleep and you dont have to worry about her crying or crabbing on to you she is asleep and when she gets up she wont notice that you are gone she is going to be so curious about the new stuff around her that she can get too lol

You need your time away from her just be strong and know that you will be back with her in a few short hours

Answer 5

Aw, I think it'd be okay.

Unless you are getting nervous because they might "do" something to her.

Answer 6

because you're a mommy. our hearts naturally break every time we have to be away from our children.

Be sure to pack all her favorite toys, her most comfortable blanket, her walker/jumper, and even a photo of you and your husband (secured in a Ziploc baggie).

get to grammas a full hour before you have to leave...

set her up on the floor of the living room, on her fave blanket, w/ toys. watch gramma interact with her before you leave, it will give you tons of relief to know that she will be well taken care of in your absence.

Answer 7

This is actually a very common feeling most parents get when they have their children dropped off at someone else's house for the night. I also felt the same way the first time with each of the kids. Feel confident enough that you have everything she needs.... diapers, wipes, formula, clothes, bottled water if you do not use tap water.... all the things you use on a every day basis... Also be sure that if you have a cell number they can contact you. Call them a couple times to find out how she is doing. If there is any problems they will let you know!

Answer 8

You have bonded with you child.  Very natural feelings.  However, your first priority is NOT your child, it is your husband.  Your priorities are a little off but that like I said, it's natural.  What you should concentrate on is building your relationship with your husband every chance you get so that when your daughter leaves home, you are not stuck with a stranger.