Why do I feel so awful? ?

Question

I just became the captain of an organization on child abuse, and we had a meeting the other day. I am a VERY shy person, so I knew that if I didn't force myself, I wouldn't say anything. I did say a couple things at the meeting by forcing myself to offer ideas. But when I think about it, my ideas were worthless, or not as good as everyone else's ideas--I feel embarrassed by offering such worthless ideas--I mean, I really wanted to just SPEAK. I didn't want to sit there looking bored or not saying anything.

How can I overcome this feeling? I mean, after all, I DID offer some ideas.

Answer 1

Just remind yourself that a lot of other people think the same way about themselves, it's not that abnormal.

I do the exact same thing in social discussions and things, I have to force myself to speak up and then worry if my ideas were stupid.  It's just one of the things people do if they're shy.

Don't be afraid to speak up, though!  If you have an idea that you think would be good, say something.  Honestly, I don't think it's possible to have a stupid idea (unless you're trying to make up a stupid idea as a joke or something, hehe)

Answer 2

Unfortunately there is no better way out of it than through it. Experience talking with people and feeling accepted only comes from doing it, the more the better.  

Answer 3

You can overcome this feeling by knowing that you are making a difference one little step at a time.As long as you give "positive" ideas and don't be critical about other people you should do fine. Sometimes being a good listener is the sign of a good leader. Remember you are the voice for children. Speak up when it really matters. I am happy to see that there are compassionate people like you that care about children and do make a difference and get involved!!!!

Answer 4

A good listener is a precious resource. Too many people want to spend all the time talking and no time listening!

I'm guessing it's not an accident that you became involved with this particular organization. If you yourself have a history of abuse, thinking about abuse may bring back feelings of helplessness and worthlessness from when you were little. Something to watch out for. Remind yourself that you are an adult, and that you have power over your life now, and tell that abusive voice inside your head to SHUT UP!  

Thank you for what you are doing.  

Answer 5

just be open.

let people know you are a bit shy & that its hard.

or practice in a mirror. overcome your shyness.

or write down ideas beforehand if you know the topic.

Answer 6

I used to be very shy, and sometimes, that really shy girl still comes out. There's nothing wrong with not being loud or outgoing, but sometimes it can get in the way of life... agreed?

How I dealt with it? I realized I was scared of looking stupid. I'm thinking that may be part of why you are shy as well. Beating yourself up over the times you DO speak out, saying that your thoughts were stupid, doesn't help at all... and in fact, just makes things worse.

Your ideas are not stupid. And keep speaking out. You should be proud you came that far in just ONE meeting. Don't compare yourself to others... it's irrelvant. Everyone is different and some people don't even have social fears, and therefore, worry about other things. Don't compare yourself to others. It's about your own progress compared to how you USED to be. Not to how others are.

Because I can guarantee if you approach it that way, you'll end up discouraged and disappointed.

Good Luck! :)

Answer 7

you're doing great, keep it up. the more you get engaged about a subject the more comprehensive and useful your ideas will be.

Answer 8

You say your ideas were worthless or not as good as everyone else's ideas.

I wonder how you have been selected as captain of the organization.

In any case gain lot of goodwill. It will solve all the problem.