Why do I feel so scared and nervous!?

Question

Im going into 11th grade...

my best friends in 12th.

I dont have many friends

is it cuz im scared to be alone in my classes!?

I dont know what to do! Schools like 5 days away, and im going to have a panic attack

Answer 1

You just answered your own question lol, but if you need a friend I'm here at [e-mail]

Answer 2

Knowledge is power. So let me explain something about Panic...

Anxiety is brought on by outside stresses. (such as what you have explained) Then you goo through what is called an endogenous stage, that is when the outside stress  is no longer an issue, because you are now afraid of what you are feeling (body symptoms)Racing heart... you are scaring yourself.

First remember this is just anxiety... play it down.  Tell yourself, It will pass, distract yourself.

Now you have to deal with this issue ( outside Stress). Give yourself presmission to be anxious, it is ok, it is  a new school year, Being in class with people you do not know... of course you are a little anxious.

Think about the positives, not the negatives. You feel the way you think.

You said yourself. I don't have many friends... That must mean that you have some. So say that, I have some friends.

Don't have unrealistic expectations. Not everyone is going to like you.

But you can expect that some people will like you.

Like I said play it down. Nobody there is going to know that you feel anxious. You think they do, but they don't. Only you know.

You may be thinking "what if" this happens or that. What if everything is great... What if you make a friend... What if you knew that you are not the only person that is feeling anxious? Well you are not... everybody feel anxiety. Maybe not to the extent you do. But now you have some techniques to be less anxieous.

And if you experience anxiety on a regular basis. And definitly if you have panic attacks. Start reducing all caffiene, sugar, and chocolate... These things are stimulants... They make you more nerveous. racing heart. crazy thoughts... I know this stuff because I have dealt with it all.

I used to be so nerveous all the time and I had PANIC. But not now. I am calm and in control. I stopped all the caffiene sugar, and chocolate. I never realized what a difference it would make. I have slowed down in all my ways. I talk slower, which means I don't talk 100 miles an hour, not even knowing what I am saying. Then going and worrying about what I said, not being able to remember because I was talking so fast. I just do everything slower. I feel in control. I also see a difference in my thinking.

There are 2 things we can do with worry. One if we cannot change it we need to forget it. It is a waste of energy. If we can change it then we need to take action. If you are worried about school then what can you do to make that first day more comfortable? Prepare...Dress comfortable. don't go in thinking you are any different than anybody else. Play it down, It is just another year. It is fine.

Knowledge is Power. You are going to be fine. Get your mind off school starting, do something fun. start tapering off the caffiene. And take control.

Answer 3

when i went into my junior year in high school i went to a totally new school and had no friends! Just keep a smile on your face and be friendly and inviting! you will be fine!!! you will make tons of friends!

Answer 4

when i was in college my main focus was not making friends, but i met someone who introduced me to so many people it became insane, well i graduated college and now i go to a university where i didnt have any friends, i was focused and didnt care...but sometimes i wished i i did have people i can talk to and have lunch with...so i started talking to other people asking for notes, whats there major stuff like that

so here is what you do be open, start convos get into group work

you may be afraid of losing your friend when she graduates and be left alone...but you wont...there are many other people..so make the friends now so when she leaves u wont be so left alone

Answer 5

You have to interact with people more it will fade away it works believe me.

Answer 6

Maria,  what you don't realize is that most students are having the same feelings.  It is true !   You are just one of those who feel like that...

Nothing nor no one is going to hurt you. You take life One day at a time and do the best you can. It's not going to be a life or death situation.  Just go and be there.  You're as good as the next person maybe even better.

Talk to a counselor at school if you need to. Nothing wrong with that...

Just ask for some support...You will get past this feeling of panic...It may come and go but it will definitely go.....You are important and you can become a great learner by just doing something each day. Just show up but you should tell a counselor you need some support. Befriend someone and just do it because you are a wonderful person. Smile and speak, that's all you need to do to start a process....

You are a great person and there is no one like YOU. You are where you are for a purpose and not just by accident. There is a purpose for your life. Do not let fear rule your actions. Sometimes you do things even when you are afraid....You are pretty much what you think about so try and change your pattern of thinking...Your feelings WILL change.

There is book that is personalized just for YOU that I found and it would help you to focus on all your good and positive qualities.  You do have power in your own life. Get this book for yourself and meditate on the positive things you have to offer this world.. Start today.....You can change things !  Do it for yourself...Choose to do it ! Get your own book and see who YOU really are and not what you have imagined in your mind...You are a wonderful person so go out there and influence the world with goodness and kindness....Check out this site and see your own book online...Fill out the first page and you can actually see it.

Answer 7

  Imagine that you are 20 years old and beyond the silliness of high school.  Friends are fleeting and you only need one good one for life.  Also, being alone is the only place to learn what you are all about and what you want out of life.  Drop the dependency and look somewhere over the rainbow, beyond the clouds, beyond the rain and blossom.