Why do I find it so hard to talk to attractive guys?

Question

I automatically assume that they are way too 'cool' for me or something. I am so shy around guys that I like, I get really quiet and have nothing to say. What do you say when you've just met someone new who you think is attractive?

Answer 1

ok everyone is like that to a certain extent.  its just the way our hormones work when we're around people we like, and we loose focus.  But try to think of things to say before talking to them...ask about them, like sports if they play sports, hobbies they do, etc.  Just be yourself, think of it as becoming friends with them first...before anything else, that way your mind will think of things you both could find you have in common.

Answer 2

Hi there! How are you doing? Sure is a nice day huh? Do you live around here? Want to have a cup of coffee sometime?  Pretty simple concept huh?

Answer 3

i no what you are supposed to say ( now i have to find out if he's g*y)

Answer 4

Well you are obviously just scared of rejection and thats natrual and i think you just have to jump in head first.

Answer 5

I treat them the same as any normal person.. perhaps being a touch more enthusiastic if I feel physically attracted to them.. You need to work on your self-confidence. Attractive guys are not gods, they don't look down upon you (except for some jerks, but you can find them anywhere.)

Maybe try looking at yourself in the mirror and picking out "good" features about yourself to boost your self-confidence. Mentally try and tell yourself that you are equal to "attractive" people, and that there's no reason they wouldn't be attracted to you. Don't worry, I have the same problem as you kinda, but I make myself friendly and confident and not too shy around them..

Good luck :)

Answer 6

Just flirt and try to get their attention, talk to them about anything and don't put guys up on a pedestal, they are not to cool for you. You need to talk to them if you are going to ever get anywhere with a guy you like.

Answer 7

Well, as a guy. I try and talk to the person as much as I can and spend time in a group with this person. I really do try to get to know them and to get a fair amount of information to base my judging. Though, my problem lies in the fact that i'm never quite confident enough to ask them out...

Now i don't have experience in it, but ask his friends if he has mentioned you before. If not, no biggie, some guys don't confide alot to their friends (I don't). If you really like him, ask him if he'd like to go out with you sometime. If you get a no, take it and just switch up the topic...if a yes, then you win. Really nothing to lose.

Answer 8

You just need to be confident and "comfortable in your own skin" and don't underestimate yourself. No guy is "too cool" for any girl. Just act like you would with any other guy. :) good luck!

Answer 9

Its a secret, we attractive people have a special code, your not allowed to know.. I've already said too much.

Answer 10

i think its the same. cus when i meet an attractive girl yes its hard to talk to them and i consider all girls better than me but i try to be myself. but sometimes its hard to act like urself because u wanna act like some1 every1 wuld wanna be around and would like to go out with.

Answer 11

say "s*x now please."

Answer 12

i just go up to em n start flirtin, but not giving big hints jut something like

"hey, your hair looks really cool!"

or

"wow I like your cute lips"

so just try to act as if he was any other boii

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