Why do I go through "I hate myself" phases?

Question

I'm a 20 year old girl who spent the majority of my early adolescence with beautiful friends. I was the flat chested girl with braces and acne. Now that I'm older, my skins cleared and I'm comfortable with the fact that my 32Bs aren't gonna grow anymore, why do I go through depression over my appearance every few months? I feel disgusting, I always feel ugly and like no makeup or shower can make me feel better.

My boyfriend tells me I'm always beautiful, but he has to! The only reason I'm concerned about my low self esteem phases is because I think it may be affected my relationship. When I go through these moods, it takes me so long to get ready to go out and when I'm ready it's only because my boyfriend gets impatient and since I still don't feel pretty, I'm a huge b*tch to him all night. What's wrong with me? Why does this happen to me? Sometimes i feel so pretty, I just want to go out because I'm so confident. Other times I want to lie in my bed and cry all day because I hate how I look.

Why am I like this? Does anyone go through phases like this?

p.s. - i know appearance isn't everything, I have no one to impress but myself. But feeling pretty makes me feel CONFIDENT which is very important.

Answer 1

if ya lie to yourself long enough u will beleive it

Answer 2

hey maybe you need to pray for more humility....i personally think that you're lovely. and i liked your myspace pictures; you have pretty teeth and feet. [a real good look]....i guess everyone has days where they dont feel so attractive thats normal....but true beauty comes from within. i hope you are as perfect as your pictures. dont be so heavy on yourself....you cant fix perfection.

Answer 3

We all go through the same feelings from time to time. Media and our society has set such high standards on beauty etc. That we forget that GOD DOESN'T make junk! The trick is to feel good in your own skin. This can be done in many ways- prayer, support group, Positive thinking, accenting your good qualities just to name a few. Hold your head up and enjoy your life don't miss out on what is in store for you!

Good Luck kiddo.

Answer 4

I feel like I wrote this question myself. I am EXACTLY the same! I'm 21 and some days or even week I wanna go out everywhere...even for NO reason at all...just because I feel that I look good. I still get pimples...no control over that...and I'm also happy now that I have ACTUALLY have b***s.

I guess the days that I feel the worst are when I get a lot of pimples and I have places to go and people to see. Or the fact that I'm not exactly the happiest with the size of my nose...even though everyone tells me it's not that big. I also have braces...and yes I'm 21 years old...and they make me look 16...sometimes it kinda brings my spirits down because just having braces at my age is ugly even though I will have perfectly straight teeth in like a year.

But anyways I go through the same thing allllllll the time. It's pretty normal I guess eh?

Answer 5

Woow. If anything your to pretty for him, but you guys make a cute couple.

These aren't stages, at this point in your life you are done with stages.

This might be depression [sadness for no reason or coming down on yourself]. There ARE prescriptions you can get from your doctor, although they might be a little spendy.

Just explain how you feel to your boyfriend, he should understand to.

Hope i helped =)

Answer 6

i go through the same thing...but looking my best always makes me feel better and as long as u look your best with make-up and cleanliness then im sure these phases will fade and u will accept everything about yourself...and of course love yourself

Answer 7

Oh boy.You are sooo pretty girl.You sound a little depressed.You really need to talk to someone other than your boyfriend.You need to get your feelings out and learn how to find the positive confident person inside of you.You really are beautiful and i am a total stranger telling you this.Girl pick up the pieces and make your life yours.