Why do I hate my family, whats wrong with me?

Question

I live with my mother and my son. I use to live in FL were I worked and lived by myself. I like having my son around (because I do love him) but sometimes I wish I can have a guy friend and sometimes they just run off because my son starts acting up (he is 9). My son comes before any man, but thats the problem, my son its very sensitive and emotional and sometimes selfish, which is hard for me to have a love life. in the other hand is my mother (old fashioned, perfectionist and workaholic), she does not want me to go live in FL unless its all of the three, and sometimes I feel she is drowning me in her selfishness of wanting me to be the head of the family (and I dont want to be it). I want to live in peace and very independently. I dont mind if she lives near me, but not with me or always saying comments of how I shoudl live life correctly and morally (its tiring and sickening).

what do I do to live around them but make my own life too?

Answer 1

Unless his father is dead your son deserves a relationship with him. Its hard to see a parent going off into a new relationship.

Your mom will always be your mom. Can't change her, but let her know to butt out.

Answer 2

Yeah stress can be hard especially with children. My son is the same way, very sensitive and selfish, so I can understand you just wanting to "get away". I think you should tell your mom how you feel. You are an adult right?!? So is she, right?!? Then sit her down and tell her that you want to live on your own with your son. She needs to understand that. You have to find a healthy balance between home life and personal life. It was a long time before I actually seperated the two and I was completely miserable before I did. Try going out once a week, just once and not for a long long time but just enough time to be to yourself. Eveyone deserves some "me" time, just because you are a mother doesnt mean that you have to give that up.

Answer 3

Oh my! I understand the stress of both worlds!! Tell your mother that you want your son to be raised by you and that there are things that you two want to do together! I lived three houses down from my mom and she never came down unless she needed something! Perhaps if she is a work to death type of person you can get a job opposite of her and allow her to watch after your son while you work. Make the best of it. Moms are over bearing and try to rule your life. Also understand that your nine yro should live with you. Your his mother! A man will come along later in life now, take the advantage of having your son to yourself. Find a guy that can met up with you at a fishing hole or something along those lines. I do agree that a boy needs male attention!!