Why do I have interview problems with women?

Question

i don't mean to boast. But I'm a pretty blond withrather large breast and rear end. And women are intimidated by me. But I do not want them to be. When I go on interviews, I am dressed very professionly. I have my copy of my resumé with me. I sit up straight and keep eye contact. I know I'm qualified for the position ! What can I do to make these women hire me ?

Answer 1

Two things I noticed right away:

1.) You come off as very cocky, even on the internet, so I can just imagine what you might come off like in person.

2.) You seem to think that women care what you look like when they do the interviewing.

I work as a Human Resource Advisor and do hiring, staffing, etc. etc. and let me tell you this - no one cares what you look like. Do you know what we notice right away? How you greet us, how you present yourself, and how you carry on conversations.

On most occasions when I'm interviewing someone, there's a male in the room as well, and if they choose to be, a representative of the union's panel. The reason these other people are in the room is to make sure that we keep biases to a minimum and hire the most qualified candidate. You didn't say whether or not there were more people in the room when you were having your interview. I'm willing to bet that there were.

Here are some questions regarding things that might have gone wrong with your interviews:

1.) Did you prepare yourself for the interview? Were you well rested and focused?

2.) Did you ACTUALLY dress appropriate? You bring up the fact that you have big b***s and a big butt, were they covered up? Did the outfit you chose seem to accentuate those features on purpose?

3.) Did you chew gum during your interview? This can make someone look very unprofessional.

4.) Did you interact with the interviewer? Did you ask them meaningful questions about the position/organization?

5.) Did you ask about vacation or days off during the interview? This comes off as lazy and not work focused.

6.) Were you knowledgeable in the areas they asked you about? Did you struggle with the interview questions? Did you need to ask them for help more than once on a question?

7.) Did you go into the interview with the attitude that you portray on this site? If you did, I wouldn't have hired you either.

8.) Do you actually have all the skills and competencies you say you do that are on your resume? There are ways that we can question you in a sneaky way to find out if you have them or not.

9.) Were you qualified for the job? Be honest with yourself. Were you applying for jobs that you have no experience in? Were you applying for fields that you have never expressed interest in nor worked in before? You might have been way out of your league (sorry to say).

Anyway, there's a number of reasons why you might not have got the jobs you had interviews for. Next time you have an interview, practice some questions face to face with a female friend. Ask her to critique you honestly. Be prepared for any negative feedback. Use her feedback to your advantage. You might have been going into these interviews thinking you were "all that and a bag of chips"...and let me tell you that us women doing the interviews don't give a hot d**n what you look like sweetheart.

Answer 2

You could try opening your own airline, dressing everyone in pink and changing your name back to 'Priscilla'.

Seriously, give it up.

As a a woman, you're not cutting it.

Most women can tell and I think other intergender people are embarrassed by your lame attempts to denigrate women to bolster up your fragile ego.

Build a bridge and get on with a life of your own.

Cheers :-)

Answer 3

Become uglier than the one interviewing you. Woman hate competition where there the belle of the ball. They don't want to give it up for a newcomer.

An Baba an Mo an all them on here don't know you but quickly say you have no communication skills. They truly sicken me to judge someone so quick. But, then turn around an act as though they are open minded an here to help a fellow woman. You will find a job just keep pounding away.

Answer 4

As Baba pointed out, there is something wrong with you.  It could be because you are barely literate.  Your grammar sucks and you can't spell.  You evidently have one large "breast"... but there are additional reasons we can tell you are imbalanced.   Others have suggested you may come off in a manner that irritates people - just this narcissistic post of yours alone is sufficiently irritating to put us right off.  We don't even need to meet you in person.  You have an "attitude" that suggests you are not a team player, and that's plain as day.

Take as many workshops as you can and get advice from the pros about what is REALLY going on.

Answer 5

Oh, please - you think you're the only pretty blond with boobage and butt to ever need a job?   Maybe it's the fact that your language skills are lacking, or that you interview poorly, or that you're not actually qualified for the job.  It could be your attitude.  Believe me, "these women" aren't hiring you because you're adorable.  Someone else may be a better candidate than you.

You sound like my BFF.  She also thinks other women are jealous of her.  They're not.  They're reacting to the fact that she comes across like her sh*t doesn't stink.  She doesn't like other women (she admits it) and she makes this very clear to her coworkers whenever she gets one of her many jobs.  She thinks of herself as a man's woman and she eventually gets fired because she doesn't get along with anyone.  With your attitude, maybe you're the same way.  Change your attitude.

Answer 6

There's a great Ani DiFranco quote:

"and god help you if you are an ugly girl

course too pretty is also your doom

cause everyone harbors a secret hatred

for the prettiest girl in the room"

Unfortunately, we live in a society that correlates a woman's appearance with her qualifications.  Adding insult to injury, we are then stereotyped according to our appearance.  Larger women are seen as stupid/lazy, blonde women with large b*****s are seen as stupid/ditzy, and I could go on and on.  

Women are taught to see other women as a threat, especially in the workplace.  You might try some experiments with different outfits, removing jewelry, not wearing as much make-up, etc. to see if it is really your appearance that is putting people off.  You could always do a drastic change and dye your hair to see what happens!

Answer 7

Maybe in some way you are comming off sexually intimidating.  Try to reduce the size your b*****s appear and your buttox

Answer 8

they must be jealous... lettin their emotions get in the way of their job... if it was a male interviewer you wouldn't have this problem.

Answer 9

You know what? I don't have big b***s and that's happened with me. I have been sized up by women before in interviews, and have even been talked down to (I don't think you are enthusiastic enough; we don't dress like that <I wore a dress to the second interview, which I guess was too casual, even with a blazer - all black>).

I think the best thing to do is come off as friendly as possible. Before you go in, listen to some music or do something that will put you in a good mood. That way your smile and poise are genuine and doesn't look forced.

Good Luck!!

Answer 10

Maybe you just come across in a matter that irritates people. My sister and I were both models in our younger days. She thinks everybody is jealous and intimidated by her, the truth is shes my sister and half the time I can't stand to be around her. I (although admittedly can be somewhat antagonistic on Y/A) have a lot of friends and make people feel welcome to be themselves with me. Maybe its the vibe you're putting out there.

Answer 11

because women can see through women, but if you were a man atleast then they could delude you.

Answer 12

Seriously, don't worry about it.  All you can do is smile, shake her hand, and look her in the eye when you do it.  Eventually, you'll land in the right spot.

Answer 13

I worked with men for 25 years when I owned my welding equipment business.  I find myself more comfortable working with men, because I address the business, and do not play silly coy games, nor do I engage in silly gossip, and water-cooler visiting.

My husband and I have many friends in which I knew the man from business, before we knew them as a couple.

I would continue to dress very conservatively professionally, and do not think that you are not being hired because you are well-endowed.

Stop focusing on why women are not hiring you.  Focus on WHY you are not getting hired, by anyone.

Are there classes you should take to keep your skills up to peak performance?  

Think about this, not WHO is doing the hiring.  When you find the right mix, you WILL get the job, I promise!