Why do I hit myself when i'm really upset?

Question

This doesn't happen very often but sometimes when im in a bad fight with my boyfriend and he doesn't listen to me or accuses me of something that i am not doing i freak out. Last night we had a bad fight and i started hitting my head against the wall and crying uncontrollable. I just feel in a state of panic and desperation. How can I stop?

Answer 1

You are hitting yourself because you feel that you are wrong, you feel that you deserve to feel the pain you give yourself and you may have hidden guilt of something you have forgotten.

Hit yourself while you read this message. Did it hurt? Why did you do it?Did the sensation of pain calm you down?  Why don't you touch a red hot iron or tip scolding water over yourself?

You hit yourself because you want to tell the truth when you tell people you are in pain and if there is no physical evidence you will feel that you are lying to yourself.

Pain is a distress, and distressing yourself cannot improve your health. You need to find things that love you and things that discourage yourself against hurting yourself.

Answer 2

this may happen in following conditions-

1. u want to get the attention and sympathy of your bf

2. u feel guilty about ur behavior

3. week impulse control in anger

4. u want to hurt ur bf emotionally

If you hurt yourself severe enough, pl consult a mental health professional as it might be deliberate self-harm that warrants timely and professional help.

Wish u strength and courage

Answer 3

you are punishing yourself, yes, but you are also exhibiting signs of self-harm which can lead to more serious issues.  Start making arrangements to talk to a professional before this goes too far.  Good luck to you!

Answer 4

As someone who used to have a similar problem, I would say that this sounds like the beginnings of self-injury. In any case, you should talk to your doctor and ask him or her to recommend a good psychologist and/or psychiatrist. You're not alone in this--in the long run, you need to find a healthy and more positive coping mechanism, and working with a therapist can help you reach that goal. In the mean time, whenever you feel this way, just do your best to ride out the feelings one minute at a time while trying not to let yourself lose control. Call a friend or find a way to make sure you're not alone when you feel this way. Just being with another person, or even a pet if you have one, will make you less likely to engage in harming yourself.

The most important thing, however, is to make sure you get some help from a professional therapist who has experience helping people with these types of tendencies.

Good luck, and take care of yourself.

Answer 5

This si a form of self mutilation, alot of people do it when they are insecure or upset sometimes they do it so often they don;'t even realize they are doing it.  You should see a therapist that can get you into a congnitive therapy about getting to the root of this problem.  Sometimes an anti-anxiety medication can hekp calm you down.  I hope this helps you.

Answer 6

firstly i would go see your doctor and ask for a referral to see a psychiatrist. it sounds as though you need some help before this escalates.

Answer 7

you are punishing yourself for something.

I would recommend seeing your primary physician for a referral

for seeking out a psychiatrist.

good luck and god bless

Answer 8

it sounds to me that you are very angry at yourself when the person who warrants your anger is your bf.  Its safer to get angry at yourself and blame yourself than get angry at the real source - your bf. Your bf is emotionally abusive and you don't ever deserve such treatment. You have every right to be be furious at him for f*** with your mind!  He is not good for you.