Why do I keep dreaming about my ex?

Question

Over the past couple of months, I've been having dreams about my ex boyfriend. In some dream he attempts to contact me, and I run for dear life, in others, we're just hanging out, friends, and in the preocess of trying to have a relationship again.

We broke up almost four years ago (and it was one h**l of a messy and painful break up too) and stopped talking all together two years ago. However, I have recently been attempting to contact him, if nothing else than to finally get some closure and resolve the issues that were never dealt with so I can FINALLY move COMPLETELY past him.

So, if anyone has any ideas as to why I've been dreaming about my ex, I'd love to hear them! Thanks in advance!!!

Answer 1

You need closure and since you desperately need it you have contacted him and your mind is playing tricks on you. Since he was a big part of your life there re things that maybe still keep you attached to him. Maybe you just need to hear it again that you guys are the past and that there are more options that are coming and you want to make sure that everything in deed is dead. You know what they say, where there was fire, ashes still remain.

Answer 2

He is currently in your thoughts alot and now that you are trying to make a change in yourself, you have to drudge up your past with him in order to heal.  I think that is why you are beginning to dream of him alot again.  Dreams are where you work out things in your life.  Don't worry, you won't end up back in a relationship with him or anything.  I don't even think that personal contact with him is necessary.  When you see him from a distance (maybe in public) there is not going to be any attraction there and so you will be reminded that the past is in the past.  This should also remind you that YOU are a different person now too.

Answer 3

Most often when you dream of a person, it isn't really about the person but what they represent to you. It can be confusing because most people try to figure out why they are dreaming about the person themselves.

Think about what he represents for you that you may be missing in your life now. Maybe even if you weren't happy with him, you miss the stability that you had with him at one time?  More than likely there is something that you felt like you had in that relationship (even if it was shattered later) that you are missing now.

If you realize this and starting looking for a way to fulfill whatever need you are having, it will take care of the dreams and help you to get over him entirely.

Good luck.

Answer 4

u still have feelings of him