Why do I not trust him?

Question

My husband and I just got back together from a month break and I don't trust him now. He never lied never cheated and hasn't givin me a reason to not trust him, but for some reason I don't since we got back together. I check the minutes on the phone, the phone records and he doesn't tlk to anyone. he works the same hours eveyday at work and comes right home, so we are never apart. So why do I feel like this? It's really starting to p**s him off that I don't trust him. How do I get this feeling to go away before it ruins my marriage?

Answer 1

Your craziness has me wonder if maybe you were rendezvoused during your break. That would make sense why you 'feel' you don't trust him. It might be you who should be scrutinized. Sounds like you might have security issues and heck might as well throw in trust issues. If there is no proof he is doing anything wrong now, your blame might give him the UMPH to put truth behind your accusations. Just then you would have the right to call him out!

I think you need to chill out. If you are not comfortable and don't trust him after all your savenging and nothing has come up then let it go or let him go.

Answer 2

Okay first off, it sounds like you have a pretty nice guy.  If he isn't showing any signs for you to distrust him, then don't worry about it.  It is probably your conscience because you don't know what happened during the month you wasn't together. You just know he wasn't with you and that hurts.  So I would just say to you it's just your conscience, not to worry about it.  If his actions start to change, then take action but since he is not giving any sign of distrust, don't worry about it. Just enjoy the time you are spending together instead of pushing him away worrying about it. Because if you keep it up, he will get mad and leave and by the way you talk, you definitely don't want that to happen. So just enjoy life and do not worry about it until you have something to worry about!

Answer 3

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Talk to him, and explain what you feel.  You feel the way you do for a reason.  DON'T go snooping b/c you will find something, and that something may very well be nothing, but it is because you went in with the intentions for find "proof".  Communicate, love and trust what he says UNTIL it falls in your lap, and TRUST ME it will.  Men tell on themselves EVERYTIME.

Answer 4

Maybe you're just looking for a reason not to trust him, and hoping he did something wrong so you can leave him? Do you really love him, or is it a convenience marriage?

Answer 5

Were you cheated on by a past relationship? If nothing has changed, perhaps you might want to see a counslor to help you with those feelings. If he is the one who suggested the month long break, that could be part of the reason you don't trust him as well.

You have to see someone about  this or your going to tick him off to the point that he doesn't want to deal with it anymore.  

Answer 6

get some counselling.

Answer 7

If' he's never given you a reason to not trust him, then you have the issues and you need to sit down with yourself and figure them out.  You will ruin your marriage and he may cheat if he feels like he's already being accused of it.  If you love him, and he's given every indication that he loves you and wants your marriage to work, then pull it together.  Maybe you should sit down with him and tell him how you feel and why.  Even in marriage, you're innocent until proven guilty, so treat him that way.  

Answer 8

How is someone else going to tell you why you don't trust the fellow? Only you know the real answer. It sounds to me that you have nothing to worry about.

Answer 9

It is your own insecurities that are making you not trust him.  He has not given you any reason to not trust him.  You just are not secure enough with yourself to be with him.  You should prolly seek counseling to help your self esteem.

Answer 10

Maybe your just insecure if hes never done anything too make you feel that way its jst that u need to rebuild your confidence and if you dont give him his space you will end up pushing him away.

Give him space try to have one on one time

Answer 11

Why did you guys have a month break up?  Did you think he was interested in someone?  Was it his idea to break up?

I think because you broke up for a month and you didn't really know what he was doing.  You probably think he was having an affair or dating.

I think you need to ask yourself, why you are with him again.  If he's acting the same, I would try and put it out of your mind. Think about starting over and just seeing what happens.

If he's acting the same, then I wouldn't think he's cheating on you. If he was I would think that he wouldn't have gotten back together.

Answer 12

Is there possible another reason you think he is a cheating other than work hours or phone calls find out what makes you think it and prove it wrong and you can stop.

Answer 13

Oviously you were having troubles due to the month breakup. It sounds like you have some unresolved issues. Most likely due to communication issues.

You need to be honest with him and yourself. You need to look at all the ugliness you feel and then throw it away.

Best wishes

Answer 14

First off keep your mouth shut if its ruining your marriage and you have zero evidence!