Why do I relate to women like this?

Question

I have thoughts of having s*x with almost every woman I meet. I dont do anything about it but I THINK about it. I always want to be intimate with them by discovering more about them and their personal lives. I mean do all men relate to women in this way? Or am I completely weird?

Answer 1

How old are you?  This is a common enough condition in early adolescence, and many--maybe most--men never completely outgrow it.  The "weirdness" is in your thinking that this is a way of relating to women.  Most women would say that you've got the cart before the horse:  First you relate, then you think about having s*x. That, at least, is what you should pretend you're doing.

Answer 2

No i think its normal...however i am a girl...i dont think about having s*x with every man i meet, but there have been a few that caught my eye ;)  HAHA I am in a serious relationship for over 2 years now and i must admit, before him i did catch myself doing it sometimes...not all, only the "lookers"  but after him...its funny the saying is true...i only have eyes for him LOL.  But really i dont think like that at all anymore.  Its very natural to want to know more about someone-- who they are, where they come from...their life story, their secrets...you know all that good stuff that lets you know who someone really is!  This is normal, wanting to jump every woman's bones that you come in contact with is ...NOT!

Answer 3

you may be g*y

Answer 4

wanting to know more about someone is not the same as wanting to have s*x with them. I would say your unique to many men I know who don't seem to want to get to know anyone, they just want to have s*x with them.

Maybe when you find the right women, you will want to get to know more about them, more then you will want to have s*x with them.

Answer 5

as a guy I will say this is pretty normal for a caring guy. remember WE ARE NOT ALL THE SAME. some guys just look for s*x. and some guys really do care. All of us may not actively look for s*x but we all do think about it

Answer 6

I think the keyword in your query is the word "Almost" as in "almost every woman".   This is the word which separates you from the obsessional in that if you find every woman sexually attractive there really is something wrong with you but because there are some,  who  do nothing for you which pulls you back from being just weird.  It is evident that some women would see your admission as being demeaning to women in that, it implies that you see them as sexual objects and if that's the case then they probably would be negative towards you but I think that most men subconsciously rate women even if they don't admit it and I think it is perfectly normal even if it isn't very PC to confess to doing it.

Answer 7

Don't worry. You are just a Red Blooded American Guy.

I'd say there would be something wrong if you didn't think that way.

Sorry Ladies!

Answer 8

Sounds like you've got a problem darling.

Answer 9

Sounds to me like you have a problem. I'd seriously go see a therapist about it; otherwise, the problem could escalate to you not knowing when to draw the line.

Answer 10

you dont think your weird, but i would try to think about different things or focus on something else when you meet these women and start having thoughts, don't suppress the thoughts just change the thoughts, like focus on what she is saying. the real way to find out about a women and to "discover "her more is to ask her about herself, if you really want to get to know her hang out with her.