Why do I seem to enjoy putting myself down?

Question

Whenever I get sad, or I'm just normal, I always seem to talk to other on-line and put myself down, I'm used to calling a horrid person and etc.

But I really don't know why I do it, I dont enjoy or feed off of other's pity, but I always seem to enjoy making myself feel bad.

Answer 1

you really want to hear some one tell you that is not true you want someone tell you that really your wonderfull you need to hear some good stuff.....right.... right!!!!!!!!!!!  

Answer 2

im not sure..only u know

Answer 3

It's your way of coping.  It's a form of rationalization and self-fulfilling prophecy.  I used to do it all the time.  If you keep telling yourself that you're a bad person when bad things happen or you feel bad, it becomes comforting in a way because you feel like you deserve it.

For example: "I'm ugly and it's unlikely anyone will like me.  I don't blame them."

Habitually putting yourself down, maintaining a low self-esteem, it's all pathological behavior that helps to justify when something bad happens.  Once you're locked into that cycle, you don't have to worry about the complete unpredictability of reality, the anxiety that comes with all those responsibilities to yourself and others.

Being miserable or having low self-esteem can be psychologically addicting, or a strange form of validation.  You do it because it's something familiar to you, and the familiar is comforting.  I'm willing to bet you probably get anxious when you break out of that and don't put yourself down.

If you want it to stop, then you just have to realize that you're not the bad person that you think you are.  It's hard to say how that will happen, sometimes it's just like a sudden realization, like a punch in the face, while others continue to pathologically hate themselves.  But, regardless, you have an issue with self-loathing, and you only do it because it's a comfortable reaction for you.  Self-deprecation is fine for humor, but not as an actual habit

I would advise breaking out of that.

Answer 4

Maybe you just really hate yourself and you like letting people know how miserable you are.  Maybe you do this secretly hoping someone will understand what you're going through and reach out and make you feel like somebody.  Maybe you just want someone to save you from yourself.  

This could be you, but maybe it isn't?

Answer 5

let me tell you how it is for me...i put myself down too..well used to...and i did it alot because i loved hearing people telling me that i was worth something that i wasn't a horrible person...i liked being told i was something and not what i thought of myself and it made me want to strive for something...