Why do I sometimes copy others?

Question

i have 2 examples the second one is more recent and important.

ex.1 - i was allways very well liked in high school people thought i was really funny and stuff but there was this older guy who wasent funny at all but everyone just thought was so cool even though he might of been a little slow, for a couple years in certain situations id try to be like this guy for no apearent reason.

ex.2 this has been happening aloit lately but my dad has lived a h**l of a life from bad too good, poor to rich and hes built alot of qualities and characteristics id love to have, i really try not to copy him but sometimews i still end up doing it for the proper things like being really polite or something. but lately and i really dont like this, if im qwuestioning doing something ill ask myself if he would do it but hes 51 now and can do whatever the **** he likes while im 20 and by the way hes no saint so most of the time if i say he would do it i probably shouldent. sometimes i treat my girlfriend like he treats my mom and i just feel un original and i know i have more potential then this but im stuck in this stupid habit of trying to be like him. any thery's or suggestions? thank you

Answer 1

I think it is human nature for some people to copy other people. I copy the way my cousin talks and her mannerisms because I think she is great. I don't want to, but I copy my mom simply because I spent so much time with her while growing up. Sometimes I will say something that sounds exactly like her, and it scares me. Don't worry about it. It is normal for you to try to be like your father, even if he isn't great.

Answer 2

yeah well that's how you are you just kind of learn what you see.  since you realize that you do it, then i think it's possible for you to change yourself.  

it's ok to be polite and stuff.  maybe for hard decisions and relationships you should really think about it--what is the best thing for you to do, and what you will FEEL the best with.  don't think about what another person would do, especially since you know that it wouldn't be a good choice.

and maybe you need a better role model (i know your dad isn't a good one, but he is the one you have now)

Answer 3

Well, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree..or there's another saying..like begets like...anyway, as the other person said, we all try to emulate others whom we admire though we imitate best those whom we constantly surround ourselves with..One of the reasons for the saying "you are known by the company you keep"..seek to emulate the best in others and try to unlearn the rest you have as part of your makeup..it's a life long challenge..But it is great to hear that you have become perceptive of your own behavior..keep it up..

Answer 4

maybe you admire the people you want to be like.

or

they seem cooler than you are, so you try and become like them so that people think you are just as cool or cooler then that person.

Answer 5

your just looking for that TEMPORARY[sp?] high. your constantly looking for someone to look up to someone to be like. i dont know if your dad has been there for you your whole life but some times thats how i feel. look i try to be like someone but then i think to my self " if im constantly trying to be someone else, WHO IS GOING TO BE ME'

think about it

Answer 6

It's natural to emulate other peoples actions and behaviors.  Also sometimes on the way to discovering who YOU are, you have to try many different things on.  You may see that these things work for other people, so you try them yourself.  I would suggest thinking which things you like about your Dad and keep those, and which things you don't, and think of another way of handling those situation.

You can't possibly copy everything you do from others, but the road to self discovery is scattered with learning from others (good or bad).