Why do I still love my ex after he got my sister pregnant?

Question

he is now even asking for me back after I filed the divorce papers.

Answer 1

You love him because love is blind, and sees no barriers. However, you have to place all that aside and just move on. He got your sister pregnant? omg. he should not even be given a single opportunity. he shouldn't even be on your mind. What a bast...d! Please, don't be dumb, and don't be blind. If he did it once, and with your sister, of all people. he'll do it again! best of luck

Answer 2

  so he is the father and uncle of the baby--  if you divorce him , he'll probably become your brother in law--   well  you have to decide what to do, he's in the family for good now..   you still love him because love is the most difficult feeling to overcome   its the best emotion when all is good, and the worst when things go bad

Answer 3

Because hurt does not make love go away...and love and logic are not always on the same page!

It's okay to grieve the loss of the relationship!  Once you are ready, you need to figure out a way to move forward with your life, especially since you've got family members involved in this situation.

I can relate to this situation, as my ex had a fling with my cousin, and there was always something in the family stirring the pot!  I used to write in a journal so I could deal with all the pain (and see that I really was making progress even though it didn't seem like it).  Eventually, I learned that I couldn't make a new life for myself until I dealt with it, so I called him and forgave him (not for his sake, but mine) because I realized that you cannot start a new beginning until you grive the loss of the old relationship.  And ALL relationships come to an end at some point (either through break-up, divorce, or death).

Only you can decide what is best for your life...whether to move on or to see if things can be resolved.

Answer 4

Love is very difficult to give up especially when you have been hurt like this. I know it is difficult to let go, but trust me, if he did it once he will do it again. I don't know how you get the image of him and your sister out of your head. Why would you want to settle for a man that thinks only about his d**k. Dump him. Hopefully, you can mend things with your sister.  

Answer 5

This reminds me of the movie "the other boleyn girl"

oh, and don't go back with him...he is a jerk

Answer 6

It's not easy to just turn love off.  There is no magic switch that will make the memories of the good times go away.  And you shouldn't try to make them go away, our experiences are part of what makes us the people we are.

Having said that, you are absolutely right to divorce him.  I can't think of a worse betrayal than getting your sister pregnant.

I'd be more worried about how to forgive my sister!  The guy doesn't deserve it.  How are you going to live the rest of your life knowing that your niece/nephew is the child of your soon-to-be ex husband?  That's a far more difficult concept to work through!

Answer 7

I agree with Splashy and Quasimodo!

How could you ever have them both back after that?

What about if you have another man in your life?

Will you introduce your sister to him?

Divorce him and cut them both from your life forever.

You don't deserve this and they don't deserve you.

Come on you know it is the right thing to do.

Stay away.

Answer 8

Because LOVE doesn't make sense  

Answer 9

You have some personal issues that you need to address. The hurt will make you not think straight and love doesn't just shut off when someone makes a mistake. Stay your course, though. Going back will be a big mistake. Start your healing now.  

Answer 10

wow maybe bc you haven't had the proper time to get over him.  i wouldn't go back with him though the saying is true, once a cheater (in same relationship) always a cheater.  And your sister should be ashamed of herself but mostly blame the husband.  Sisters are always there men come and go.

Answer 11

Love sucks...deal wiht it. My wife cheated and has not stopped over the past year...left me and the kids..destroyed this family...still love her...cant help it. It sucks. She is still out tehre and has not asked to come back yet although she asks about my whereabouts all the time.

Answer 12

You still love him because you have memories of him.  You know it's best to stay away from him.  He slept with your sister of all people.

Answer 13

Love doesn't go away that easy. It is a normal feeling. You're doing the right thing by getting a divorce. He was so wrong for what he did. It is one thing to cheat but with your sister and then get her pregnant.  That is a no no.  

Answer 14

You're nuts.

Burned by your husband AND your sister? If I were you I'd consider them both dead and buried and to be forgotten.

Continue with the divorce. Its the smart thing to do.

Answer 15

Because your messed up!

Answer 16

Because you don't know what you have until its gone....

He found out what he had. Problem is, would he ever change? Only time would tell, that is IF you took him back.

IMHO, there are a ton of fish in the sea, why not throw your bait out there and see what you can catch!

Answer 17

Wow, It sounds like you are having some hard times. You need to remember that it's not only him it's your sister also.Your sister never should have slept with your Husband in the first place.If i was you (Which i'm not) I would never forgive any of them.What they were asking for when they did that is to split family apart. They knew what the heck they were doing when they did it. The plan was prob. never for you to find out until she found out she was having your husbands baby.You will always love both of them but you know what the best thing for you is not to take him back because when ever you look/kiss or have s*x with him you will be thinking about this every time. If you get back with him your only going to make your life harder than it is now.You will cry all the time.Just think long and hard about this before you do anything.Good Luck!