Why do I think people are better than me?

Question

My sister is a doctor but I don't think she's better than me. When I'm at the hospital and I see doctors I just think they're way better than me, they're helping society more than me and I've totally screwed up my life because I didn't follow my original plan. How can I shake this feeling, will following my heart eventually make me happier because all it's doing is making me miserable right now.

I'm 20 btw.

Answer 1

WOW! What a load you're carrying. Your only 20. Give yourself a chance.

Answer 2

Now you know why adults ask kids what they want to be when they grow up? They are looking for ideas.

Hate to say this but we both know you have some self esteem issues. Your sister is not better than you are because she has a career. First of all she's much older and has decided on this path. You're only 20. If you are not still in school, I would strongly suggest setting a goal for school for the next semester. In October, write on the calendar to contact your local community college just for a class in something you enjoy for January- doesn't have to be your future career. It will get you motivated to continue because you've made the first step. It will improve your self-esteem and give you the confidence that you need. You'll also see what's available to take next fall. Good luck.

Answer 3

let me tell you that we are all the same , nobody is better than nobody , we all have a special hidden talent , just try to figure it out and use it to help other people !

you just have to believe that you're a good person..

for an example ,helping other people will definitely make you feel good ...

it always do for me , i really feel so useful when i help other people, it is the most wonderful feeling ,like help a friend in need , donate some money to the church or any other possible thing !

Answer 4

Sorry to hear this.

You obviously have lack of self esteem.

You may not think your sister is better than you because your closer than her you may not even see her competitively or you may see other things in your sister that don't make you think she is better than you.

Doctors don't always help society as much as you think.

There are plenty more jobs that do.

There are also a lot more paths to take than your original plan so i wouldn't worry. These days there is so many options and if all else fails learn a trade.

What do you mean by following your heart?

Do you mean by thinking people are better than you or by taking a certain path?

All you need to ask yourself is if following your heart is worth it?

The more you go through for it the better you will feel in the end because of that sense of accomplishment.

If you having trouble coping then talk to somebody or get some counselling.

I hope this helps.

Chloe =]

Answer 5

I'm 18 i feel the same. I'm in this situation where i cant do what i want to because of the things my boyfriend has going on for him.

i dont have a plan basically.

seeing a counselor really does help, they really inspire you to help figure yourself out. i did that for a while.  

Answer 6

See a consellor or something. X

Answer 7

You will follow you heart eventually and it will make you happier because eventually you will be more then miserable and nobody in thier right mind accually wants to be miserable for thier whole life (after 20 years of living).

Answer 8

just try to figure out something u may want to do & go for it! i havn't accomplished nothing yet..& i am almost 30 i feel the sameway which i am on disability for anxiety/depression probs thats stood inmy way..good luck to you

Answer 9

IT IS A NORMAL FEELING EVERYBODY IN THIS WORLD FEELS LIKE THAT  EVEN THE KINGS!!!!

Answer 10

You have your whole life ahead of you.  You aren't totally screwed up, you just took a different path. People don't always follow their original plan.  Things change.   Life isn't about the destination, it's the journey along the way that makes your life better!  

Answer 11

Just trust urself and don't be modest, sometimes being pompous is better.  Don't worry tho.

Answer 12

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