Why do I want him to ask me to marry him?

Question

Ok all my friends are engaged or married it seems..Me and my BF have been together 2 1/2 yrs (3 in Nov.) And have a 13 month old daughter together. Even before I found out I was pregnant we talked about marriage. But even though he talks about us getting married.. It just he never asks..

But we always fight..Our relatinship isn't the greatest and we argue constantly.. The truth is if he asked me I don't know what I would do...I would probably say yes just becuase every girl wants to be married (specially to her babies father)

But the truth is I don't want a marriage like our relationship is..So why am I so angry he hasn't proposed?

Our friend proposed to his GF yesterday after 6 months!

We have looked at rings and everything . And really were not even financially stable to go buy a ring..but I still feel worthless..

Even when were doing good I don't think he wants to marry me..

Answer 1

You are looking for the traditional family ( nothing at all wrong with that ), and he seems a bit immature about settling down.  He should treat you better and ask you to marry him.

GOOD LUCK.

Answer 2

Just because your friends are married or engaged doesn't mean you have to be. Are you looking for a ring, wedding, party, ect. Or are you looking for a true lifetime commitment?

Answer 3

When a real man wants to marry a woman, he does it.  Immature guys who get free s*x, a warm bed, and a cooked meal dont see the value in marriage, beacuse he feels he's already getting the advantages.  

My guess is that you're living together..("we're not financially stable")...which is another thing people do to mess up their relationships.  Regardless of the fact, after almost 3 years,  I would look at the fact he hasnt asked you as a clue he doesn't want to be married right now.  He's getting the milk for free.

Answer 4

It sounds like neither of you are ready to be married.  I know what it feels like when everyone is married and you feel pressure to hurry up and walk down the aisle.  I got married at 21 (he was 20) for that reason.  Our marriage didn't even last a year  (I'm 28 now and have since remarried the right person).  I will tell you this, any problems you are having now will only get worse once you are married.  Marriage is not some magical bandaid that makes all your problems go away.  When you are single marriage looks so appealing, but once you tie the knot, you miss your freedom and the grass is looking a lot greener on that side.

It's time to take a long, hard look at the relationship.  Is he really the person you want to spend your life with?  It might be time to consider ending it.  I know it's hard when he's  your baby's father.  Some guys are never ready to settle down and we are just wasting our time trying to turn them into the man we need them to be.

Good luck.