Why do I want to cheat?

Question

I am married and there are really no problems in my marriage. I met someone at work and want to be more than just friends. Why do I feel this way? What should I do?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

You really need to examine why you are in a relationship that you do not want to be in. If you loved you spouse you would cherish what you have. It is just a horrible thing to tell someone you love them and want to have another. Infidelity hurts every one involved. I would get out of the dead end relationship before making any moves. If you have an affair you may not like what a mess that comes from it. Do you know that infidelity is the main reason spouses kill their loved ones. So I would say either love the one your with or leave before you love another.  

Answer 3

"There are really no problems in my marriage?" But you want to cheat? You have having feelings with someone else who isn't the one you are supposed to love and to hold, honor and cherish till death do you part.

By cheating, you break all those vows, you basically lie to yourself and to him essentially. You want to cheat because this person may be things you want your husband to have, or be. You are possibly bored. This can be both your fault. I would suggest really searching your heart. Is the way you feel due to you and your husband not living 100% for one another? If you both live that way, the thought to cheat on the one you truly love, wouldn't even phase you, it would disgust you really. If you want to cheat, you know that you have a big problem.

If you don't love your husband now, then something changed. The point is, you have to fall in love over and over again or else a marriage wont last.

Answer 4

Maybe you don't realize that you have problems, but you must. The only time I have ever found myself feeling that way is when I was SERIOUSLY unhappy and unsatisfied. And if you really believe that you have no problems, WHY would you want to create some? Don't cheat. Figure out whats is missing in your marriage first.

Answer 5

You have a "crush"--which can occur despite a happy marriage. If you are smart and you value your marriage, you will realize it will soon pass, and you won't ACT on it.

Avoid the person until it DOES pass.

Answer 6

You are bored.  I don't know what you should do only you can answer that.  are you prepared to have your husband find out if not you should avoid this guy

Answer 7

It's just the excitement and feeling of something "new," and the attention.  It's good that you are aware of your feelings, and that you are questioning yourself.  You will need to have to learn real self-control now that you are married. It's ok to look...but not to touch!

Answer 8

See to the nature of your attraction. Are you attracted to this man at work because he is attractive? Or is the attraction based on something lacking from your spouse.

Attractive men and women will be appealing to the opposite s*x (by definition). Do not feel guilty by being aroused by a s**y man. But be aware the sexual tension will only increase as your friendship develops .  

Answer 9

Well first you need to realize that any relationship that begins with deceit will never work out ever! If you take this to the next level I can guarantee you in time you will be filled with regret, hurt and guilt because you will realize that the feelings of excitement and lust are very short term with this man. If you're wanting to be with other people and serious in wanting to pursue it tell your husband how you're feeling, leave your marriage. The excitement and feelings from a crush make people feel a certain way, it feels good but it is just that a feeling and nothing more it will fade very quickly as soon as the initiall infatuations wares off. Life is too short, be a good wife and a good person be honest and you will find your way.

Answer 10

Maybe you are bored with your relationship.  Maybe you should try something new with your husband and see if it makes you feel different when you look at the other guy.  Remember that you can look but not touch at least that is what my husband says.  I sort of don't even think you should look.

Answer 11

Main Entry: mar·riage  

Pronunciation: \ˈmer-ij, ˈma-rij\

Function: noun

Etymology: Middle English mariage, from Anglo-French, from marier to marry

Date: 14th century

1 a (1): the state of being united to a person of the opposite s*x as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law (2): the state of being united to a person of the same s*x in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage <same-s*x marriage> b: the mutual relation of married persons : wedlock c: the institution whereby individuals are joined in a marriage

2: an act of marrying or the rite by which the married status is effected; especially : the wedding ceremony and attendant festivities or formalities

3: an intimate or close union <the marriage of painting and poetry — J. T.  

or

Main Entry: com·mit·ment  

Pronunciation: \kə-ˈmit-mənt\

Function: noun

Date: 1603

1 a: an act of committing to a charge or trust: as (1): a consignment to a penal or mental institution (2): an act of referring a matter to a legislative committee b: mittimus

2 a: an agreement or pledge to do something in the future; especially : an engagement to assume a financial obligation at a future date b: something pledged c: the state or an instance of being obligated or emotionally impelled <a commitment to a cause>

Answer 12

You feel that way because you want to be a dirty w***e. What you should do is throw yourself in front of a train.

Answer 13

stay away from your co-worker,,,remember you're married for a reason,,so try to keep in mind why you married this special person and bring the fire back,,,,

Answer 14

maybe you dont love your husband that much

Answer 15

you wanna cheat because you know of all your husband's flaws (you live with him, remember?) and this co-worker is a whole new mystery.  

Answer 16

You must not love your husband, that's why.

Answer 17

Because you have no scruples. Or maybe it's just attraction. Or maybe there's something missing in your marriage.

Answer 18

Probably because this new person is giving you attention and you haven't felt like that in a while from your spouse, the new feelings of starting a relationship.  Avoid him if you don't want to do this.

Answer 19

most of the time you just aren't getting enough love from your other husband... and its always okay too look at ppl and go "ooh, he's hot!" or something like that or maybe even a little small talk, but nothing like dating or seriously flirting.

think of your marriage and husband, and how that would work out.

then compare your husband to this other man.

im sure your husband will be your choice in the end :]