Why do I want to get married?

Question

I attended a wedding yesterday that was absolutely beautiful. The church, the decor/flowers, the bride's gown, everything was perfect. I even cried because she looked so amazing! Now, I keep thinking about weddings and wanting to get married. I've even thought about going to the local bridal boutiques to try on wedding gowns! Is something wrong with me, or is this normal?

Answer 1

Lol! Nothing's wrong with you, the majority of girls dream about their weddings from the age of 12. If you want to try on gowns, do it, nothing wrong with it. Just realize that by the time you get married your style, or choices might change so don't go investing in a gown you might not like in the future.

Answer 2

I think that is perfectly normal - especially after you see such a lovely wedding. Nothing wrong with that.

Here is a fun program you can play with from David's Bridal. You can dress you yourself and your bridal party in different outfits using this program. I loved it when I was planning my wedding:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/dress_your_w...

Answer 3

you r perfectly normal... you have just gone crazy by see they marriage...

what i suggest is do not be hurry to choose your life partner ..

Answer 4

yes you are normal. women tend to go through this after being in a wedding. it is normal for a woman to experience these feelings but they should subside soon, after she realizes how crazy she has become.

Answer 5

There's nothing wrong with you. A girl dreams about the "perfect" wedding there whole life and to see one in front of your own two eyes and your not the bride... of course you want to get married!

Answer 6

its ok i dont like working either

Answer 7

Gosh, that must have been some wedding!   Some young people fall in love with love.  I think a wedding probably puts a brighter ribbon on the marriage package than is fair to two normal humans who enter what they promise will be a lifetime pairing.  I think most people who are or have been married would tell you that marriage requires a great deal of effort to retain a marital  relationship.   My advice would be to talk to woman who has been married for a number of years.  Not a friend or relative.  Ask an acquaintance to assure a more candid response to your questions.  I imagine the secrets of a good marriage are pretty common and long lasting.   A good personality fit is the one feature that I think would be so important.  Good luck and may your dreams be realized when the time is right.  

Answer 8

Weddings are g-r-e-a-t!  They appeal to the fantasy inside of us; for one day everything is romantic & perfect.

But in reality they are a LOT of work & exhausting.

But weddings are a celebration.  They allow you to gather your family & friends together to help you start on this new road of adventure.  It is a wonderful & exciting time!  The wedding you attended is stirring up feelings you didn't know you had; similar to those women whose friends start having babies.

But the thing that really concerns me is the fact that you are in a relationship but see it going nowhere?  Why?

After 5 years, it's time you sit your boyfriend down & have a

s-e-r-i-o-u-s talk.  But before you do, make sure he's the one you want to spend your life with.  Otherwise, kiss him goodbye.

Answer 9

Ask yourself, "Do I want to get married, or do I want to have a wedding?" Sounds like they are the same, but they are, in fact different. Most girls want the dress, the ring, the celebration, and then when it's time for the marriage, they realized that it's not what they had in mind. Marriage is the merging of two lives into one household. It is VERY different from living with someone. Take a step back and ask yourself if you've only started taking an interest in being married since the wedding, or if it really is something you want.  

Answer 10

I think you need to get back and re-group. Married is a road that is not for games. The two people have to do a lot of changes in the way they view life. You are not thinking for one. You are thinking for two or more. You are thinking that if I do this the way I planned , would hurt my mate and the relationship. Let say for the sake of conversation, that you want to go to school to finish a degree. You can not, you need the monies to pay rent or a house note. You need additional monies in case one of you get sick. As you can see, the list goes on and it does not seem to stop. Re-evaluate the marriage situation. It is easier to talk about than to make it happen. Live life as long as you can. Enjoy life, Think about it if you want to settle down and give and give. Yes, it is normal to think about marriage. In many cases, it many people dream.If you got Mr. Guy, talk, go to a retreat, go to counseling. Do all of the above. Visit his family. See how he treat his mother. See if you can find out the family background. You are looking to see if there are future sickness that your children might inherit. There is a lot that you might want to consider when you say I do.

Answer 11

Sounds normal to me. Wedding dress shopping is a fantasy most women have a lot. lol. That way when you do get married you already have some idea of what you want.

EDIT: I didn't mean fantasy in that way. It's just something a lot of women look foward to since they were little girls.

Answer 12

Its Normal.

Answer 13

Why cant you get married ?

If this is what you want in life and your man wont give it to you then you need to seriously look at your relationship.

5 years is a long time with no ring on your finger.

Answer 14

You write:  We've been living together for as long and have been through numerous hardships. I'm not just in fantasy land here, I seriously want to get married, but I don't think it will ever happen.

My advice?  Move out.  Remember the old saying:  "They don't buy the cow when they can get the milk for free."

It is time to move out.  Tell him you moved in with the intention that this relationship was progressing towards marriage.  Don't fight with him.  Don't have long discussions about it.  Don't give ultimatums.  Just move.

the results?

1.  He misses you.  He proposes.

or

2.  He does not propose.  In which case, you realize he had no intention of marrying you.  You are then glad you did not waste any more time on him.  You move on.  You seek grief counseling if necessary to help you deal with your grief over the loss of the relationship . . . but you move on.  You find someone who wants the same things you want out of life . . . marriage and family.

Good luck to you.

Answer 15

It's absolutely normal. Especially if you just attended a wedding ;D

I mean, I want to get married already |: