Why do SOME filipino families take advantage of ?

Question

foreigners with generous hearts. I witnessed filipina's and their family use some of these old men. The old men buy property for family members and pay for the education of a few kids. Some filipina's have an affair with other men and spend the old man's money on "secret activities."

I think that is so poor classed and make us filipino's look raunchy and dirty because of our deeds. I don't think this is funny but I see other filipino's laugh and joke about this as if its part of the culture. Very low standards.

Answer 1

Maybe beacuse of poverty.

Answer 2

Yes, what you say is true. Some Filipinas really take advantage of foreigners, I see it first hand! I personally know people who do that, and are even open to the idea. Like, they just talk abt it casually. This makes me really upset, because of this attitude, foreigners see ALL Filipinas as dirty and gold diggers. This is an insult to Filipinas who are actually not sleeping around with some white guy they just met all for the love of money and support for their whole barangay!

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the answerer above me is right as well...it is because of poverty...Corrupt officials should be shot. Also, family planning must be available EVERYWHERE, church and state must be separate, like 1000s of miles apart. That way women won't be forced to leech on white men for their family of 15.

Answer 3

I have heard about f*cked up stories like that. I think many similiar situations like this in the Philippines have been going on like this for awhile.

Thank God my wife would not allow her family to use their bullsh*t tactics on me. Some family members don't want to work and they feel comfortable in their condition. Particularly the men is who I am talking about.

Answer 4

People who take advantage of other people exist in all races  and ethnicities. The Philippines is not an exception. This may be motivated by poverty, greed or simply laziness to work and earn a decent way of living.

There are still more hardworking filipinos out there. Living honest and principled lives, sacrificing so that they can provide a good future for their families.

It is always the bad people, acts and things that are noticed. This is an irony of life.

Answer 5

First of all this is NOT just pecular to the Philippines.

I have been taken advantage of both here in Australia and in the Philippines.

Fortunately the amounts have only been small and not by my extended family.

My brother-in-law was fooled into marrying a Filipina and brought her to Australia, she was using the situation to enhance her chances of getting to America. Funny thing is we could all see what was happening and tried to warn him (Filo's and Aussies) but he wouldn't listen so now he got what he deserved.

It is not always the fault of the Filipina as it "takes two to Tango." If certain people want to get into these relationships with both eyes closed, ignore the warning signs around them and refuse to heed advice from both parts of the world then the onus is on them.

The bad are far out-numbered by the good.

Answer 6

I believe that where a man goes, and he goes with honor, he will be honored in return.

Where a man goes and behaves dishonorably,  he will be treated as he deserves.

Foreigners who come with dishonorable intentions are easily seen through by our folks, and are not, I repeat ARE NOT taken advantage of,  but beaten in their own game.

The sentence "The old men buy property for family members and pay for the education of a few kids" reflects honor on the man.   Why should this be inferred, so quick to judge, as tainting those who received?   Is charity now so out of fashion?   Shouldn't we rather focus on how this family who received,  in turn honored the giver?   Hadn't a family member so loved the stranger and offered herself and her family even, in service?   Charges of infidelity against the girl and her family are usually out of pure envy by those who did not honor the stranger, but looked upon him with prejudice, when in fact, he turned out to be a man of honor.

Do not speak so condescending of your own kind.   The hole you are digging could sink us all.

Answer 7

First of all, this is not always the case.

I know of many marriages/relationships between foreigners & Filipinos/Filipinas & I know that is not happening with them.

But of course there will be people who will always take advantage & it work both ways, the issues are not always coming from the Filipino side. And of course you see that happening even among foreigners marrying within their own race or marrying people from other races.

But to answer the q, the reasons might be greed or revenge.

Answer 8

There's not to much you can do about it. If you think about it quiet simply both parties are getting what they want out of each other. The old guy is getting company and the girl and her family are getting money to help survive. Though her fooling around isn't good at all I'm not surprised. It's in the culture and there is also alot of other things that come into the equation. How she was brought up, her experiences, education and etc. Same for the old guy too. But either way I understand where you are coming from and the best thing for you to do is just move on and don't follow in that example. Do your best to let foreigners know why the Pines has a good reputation also.

Answer 9

the very motives of this women are to prostitute themselves, suck all the available money from this old rich foreigners and spend the money on their local flings. They just fool themselves. Many foreigners are professionals and good providers yet their filipina wives still managed to cheat on them. I 've known many such cases. This pinays are in fact just so lonely, suffering from low esteem that money can't buy her peace of mind so they fall prey easily to filipino philanderers who does not think for her welfare but just suck her money /savings etc for paid sexual pleasure. Many pinoys are excellent lovers but lousy husbands. I read this article in a major filipino newspaper and it is a fact. So it is not surprising that the Philippine corrupt society is so rampant..Observe those who go to the catholic church, 80% are women and the males could even be outnumbered by male attendees who are just there to show off their love targets or girlfriends.TD's or no TD's for me, it;'s a fact we can't deny.

Answer 10

Poverty is no excuse to be dishonest.  I lived in the Philippines, and I have at least two people (not girlfriends) who "borrowed" money from me (one without really asking) and just think it's ok not to pay me back.  My impression is that they think it's ok since I have a decent job.  I don't understand this mentality.

I have since moved back to Europe and one of them won't even answer my e-mails or phone calls.  These are also educated middle class people who have jobs .....

I also loaned a few thousand pesos to a waitress I kept trying to convince to go out with me for years and wouldn't.  She had 1k of the utang open when I moved away and on my first visit back, she immediately stuffed 500 in my hand and promised not to forget the other 500.

There are good & bad, but the bad tend to strive for those situations while the good try their hardest not to get into them ...

Go figure.

Answer 11

Like an ATM, you mean.

Seriously, our Filipino women are not Pets or Domestic animal, so foreigners who want to our Filipina women they should give a Dowry to woman's family.

Answer 12

We're not all "old men", as you put it.  Some of us can still see very well and I see the same things you see.  However, I support my wife's mother because I want to.  Sure there a plenty of leaches who also want money from me but we learn how to say NO.  I also help plenty to some less fortunate friends of ours who treat us like real friends. They never ask for anything.  Those kids deserve a better life and we do what we can but we cannot support the whole brgy.  I am more generous than most but I also have to support myself and I am not rich so there are limits.

A cheating spouse is a cheating spouse no matter if they are rich or poor or whatever excuses they use.  Being poor does not get you a pass on bad behavior.

Answer 13

Because of poverty.. The reason in the first place why you would see 18 and 20 year olds married to 60 year old foreign guys is because of poverty.. Provided that there are some true love there or it might developed later on, it's just really obvious what they want.. This is actually going on anywhere in the world and even in the US.. The return is that the old guys can be with a really young girl so the s*x is great for them.. I guess that the youth in them still wants to explore around and enjoy things that they haven't experienced before because of their status before... It's basically like giving a teenager a credit card.. They can either be responsible or not..

It just works both ways, old guys should know the risks more but those girls shouldn't just marry just because of poverty or they ever do, they should not cheat on their husbands and learn to love them if they don't yet..

Answer 14

It's not all old men that are being taken advantage of. I know some young, foreign volunteers -- male and female -- who come to the Philippines to work in orphanages, street kids centers and health clinics and end up having their generosity abused by some locals. It's sad, they already are here, working for the good of the people for free, and contributing their money to the local economy. They are certainly not rich. But SOME people (certainly not everyone) treat them like they are ATMs, and blatantly overcharge them by ridiculous amounts for goods and services. They will try to befriend these foreign volunteers not caring about their personalities, only wanting their new friend to let them "borrow" money, buy them "souvenirs" and take them on trips.

Sadly, in their orientation packets the volunteers are warned of this and told "when many Filipinos see foreigners, they don't see a person, they only see money." That is certainly not always the case, there are many many people who are grateful that they are in the Philippines working for free, but love of money sure does make some people do ugly things.

Answer 15

Exploitation happens at every level in every country.  Circumstances may vary a bit, but exploitation is exploitation, and while it's embarrassing for Filipinos to see fellow Filipinos doing it to other people, upright Filipinos need to realizie that the Philippines doesn't have a monopoly of such behavior and therefore should not be singled out.

Answer 16

Poverty and hunger makes humans evil.....also lack of proper civic education.....

not all philippinas are like this, but as the population grows in numbers and jobs becoming harder to find, this kind of behavior is likely to take place.

cheers

Answer 17

Maybe because of poverty, I  have also heard of many  sad/bad stories like that .

But,  I want to say "Not all pinays are like that".

I am Japanese, and I have many GOOD pinay friends around - They're wonderful  wives and mothers living honestly.

In any circumstances, in any country in the world, a  good heart cannot lie.