Why do Scorpio males blow hot and cold?

Question

These guys are supposed to crave affection, so why are they all over you one minute, and the next you'll try to hug or kiss them and they'll say they just aren't in the mood and have to be in the mood to be affectionate.

Also, do they like purely sexual friends with benefit relationships (and are they bluffing if they say its all they want)? Because mine says he doesnt want a relationship, but he still calls me and holds me and holds my hand when we're out together, we sleep together, and when he's drunk he says loving things he would never say when sober, and when i ask him about it he says there's truth in it but its not realistic because he still doesnt want a relationship as they annoy him and always end in fire and flames.

I have a bf, but i just cant resist this scorp, and some people think he may sometimes withold affection out of jealousy cause im with someone else, but im sure he likes the fact im with someone else cause that way he doesnt have the burden of getting serious with me and the chase is on cause im not available. A friend tells me it sounds like he's bluffing if he acts like he doesnt care that I'm with someone else.

Answer 1

Scorpios have a very thick wall to tear down.

Answer 2

ok i'll be honest w you though it might not sound so very becoming of me (i know this) but what you all should know is it doesnt matter to me if i sound becoming im honest to a fault and a scorpio! w that said... yeeaaaah, we blow hot and cold- there's some volatile feelings going on w/in, we're v much idealist, bc we are such deep thinkers and observers of human nature- so we're always analyzing and trying to do our best...

im like your scorpio guy, first of all a scorpio wouldnt sleep w you (at least more than once) if he wasnt fond of you. he may not want you right now and may not totally mind at all that you are w someone else. and i think that's what your dealing w

but then there is the scorpio who does what i and your guy do and madly love the person, but if the person has a bf and we have feelings for them- we're so intensely jealous, we become difficult, we rarely show up (we have to be number 1), we'll analyze your relationship by secretly keeping tabs through the grape vine/tabs bc we are possessive, but he's not acting weird enough. i dont get that vibe.

so he hangs on to you and says drunken things... that's nothing that's just a casual scorpio that is fond of you- but whether you truly go or not- he'll get over it easily. it's a take it or leave it deal, is his deal in regards to you.

when scorpios are utterly in love they dont want to loose control they'll back up completely and withdraw. and if there is any contact... a scorpio never! i mean never turns down any form of affection even if it's cold.

Answer 3

Well, not all Scorpio guys act like that, and it sounds like you chose a real winner! (insert sarcastic laugh here)

Listen: I'm a Scorpio so I can tell you this -he only does to you what you allow him to! If you let him come over for booty-calls, then that's how he'll treat you. Of course he tells you things you've always wanted to hear when he's drunk -he has to keep you hanging on a string.

Typical Scorpio Manipulation.

So for you to grow a back bone out of the blue will come as a shock to him. He'll probably cut you off for a few weeks, then start calling again, and asking to come over as if nothing ever happened.

And if he's as manipulative as you make him sound, you'll let him back in, and continue to post questions like these, wondering why this Scorpio guy is making you crazy NEWS FLASH!!! You're doing it to yourself!!!

Bottom line, drop this dude, and find someone who is worth your time.

Answer 4

Sounds pretty confusing and complicated.  A terrific amount of mind games going on.  Why would you want to be with someone like that, unless you are like that too?

Sounds like, "like attracts like"....

Answer 5

I know what you are saying. I have always been attracted to Scorpio men when I was dating..they have always been I want you no I don't want a relationship. I love you but I need to see if there is anybody else that I love. I pretend to be distant but I am super jealous. I luckily gave up on them and met and married my beautiful husband who is a Libra.

Answer 6

Wait. You already have a boyfriend and yet you are with this other guy too? Well, gee, it doesn't take astrology to figure this out. The Scorpio guy doesn't love you and I wouldn't doubt he doesn't even respect you. He is just there to get your boyfriend's leftovers. Why in the world would you degrade yourself in such a low and horrible manner? Don't you have any respect for yourself and your body? If you sleep around and cheat on your boyfriend then don't expect the Scorpio guy to respect you and want to be in a relationship with you. Heck, don't expect anyone to respect you and want to be with you. Scorpio are all about loyalty and respect and it seems you have none of that. He is just playing you, the way you seem to be playing your boyfriend. He is not jealous. He isn't in love with you. He is just playing you.

But hey, I guess everyone has their own way of thinking and own way of acting. If you are a happy person then good for you. I just think you shouldn't expect the guy to be dropping dead for you when its obvious you are not mature enough to be in a serious relationship and be loyal to a person that basically demands that whenever they are on one. I think every reasonable person does anyways. I know Scorpio pretty well; they are not people to be messed with. Good luck with this and I hope you find some knowledge and wisdom inside yourself in order to do the right thing.