Why do Women do this...

Question

Sorry, i meant some women. Okay how come some women claim that they respect guys who are virgins and say they wished they waited for marrage also and wouldve settled down with another virgin.But later on in life they will turn into hypocrites and say that they need a guy with experience, not someoone who doesnt know what they are doing. Why do they change up all of a sudden ?

Answer 1

women in general,don't know what the h**l they want.They say they want a nice guys but later they change they change their minds because in reality they want a macho dude.

same thing with this, women say they want a virgin but what they really want  they want someone who with experience

Answer 2

women dont know what they want. well, they do, but we're full of double standards. im sorry *patpat*

Answer 3

I gues sthose some women aren't sure what they want. Many peopel are indecisive and think they know what they want yet find out they want something completely different!

But 'experience' doesn't = good. You could have s*x with 100's of women but that doesn't mean you would know how to be a good lover.

In the same way just because you are a virgin doesn't mean you aren't good at s*x.

Answer 4

Actually,  I didn't realize that some women did this.

My first partner had experience and I didn't. In fact, before him I had several boyfriends who refused to have s*x with me because they didn't want to be the one to take my virginity.

Also, further to this, I had been with men who had more experience or less experience than me and it never bothered me either way.

Less than half of my partners were more experienced than I was, and of the more than half who were less experienced than I was, a few were virgins before they were involved with me. This didn't bother me at all, and I was even flattered.

Personally, though I understand the attraction of a partner who has more experience than me, I always appreciated discovering new things with my partner. I think this can be done regardless of their previous experience and even in spite of it because no matter what someone's level of experience is, there is always a process of getting to know one another intimately and no level of experience can account for that.

I appreciated the fact that my first partner had some experience because I didn't and I was glad that he was able to guide me. If my first partner had been a virgin too I'm sure I would have appreciated discovering the experience together.

Either way, I don't feel that my partner's level of experience has ever changed anything for me. Some of my least experienced partners have been fantastic, including my current one. He may have much less exprience than I do, but he knows what he wants and he tells me, and he's open to my needs and wants as well. That's more important than any level of experience.

An experienced person may "know how to treat a woman", but I don't want my partner to "know how to treat a woman", I want him to learn how to treat me. I'm sure that although my experience benefits him in some ways, he wants me to treat him like himself and not in the ways that I've treated past partners. I've also learned a lot more with him due to his experimental nature and open-mindedness than I may have learned with more conventional, yet more experienced partners in the past. So really, it's all relative.

I understand that at some moments women may feel that they should have waited and other moments they would like someone with more experience, but again, it's all relative. This can depend on your current needs and current partners and whether or not you feel fulfilled with them.

Ultimately though, it comes down to knowing oneself, and I think that if you know yourself well enough, it doesn't matter what experience your partner has. I too, before my current partner, though that I hadn't been satisfied because I needed someone with more experience. When I had that, I then realized that experience didn't equate satisfaction if your partner isn't attentive to your needs and desires. When I was ready to throw those standards out the window I met my current partner and despite his lack of experience, he's been the best partner I've had.

The same way that some men will want to have multiple partners, use women for s*x and not commit to a relationship and later on in life will meet someone that they are willing to "settle down" with, women may go through life wanting different things at different times.

These portraits by all means don't fit all individuals of an entire gender, and everyone works differently. It's not a gendered issue, it's a a learning process, and we change and grow as we go through it.

Answer 5

I have no idea, but yeah sometimes women do tend to do that.

Um, well women sometimes change later in life as they grow up and prolly want a man that is more experience.

Maybe a few years ago, they weren't ready for the twists and turns of experience.. and just wanted a innocent guy..

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Answer 6

u talk bout respect like its somthing bad???  wats wrong with getting respect???  its somthing hard for most ppl to come by...

Answer 7

Ain't no woman wants to be with no 40 year old virgin.

Answer 8

Double standards for men

double standards for women.

Answer 9

in the first part of your question, you are describing someone young 18, 20, 22.

in the second part of your question you are describing someone older.

Women as well as men change their minds with time and experience.

Answer 10

people change there minds alot and mostly only snobbey little brats do that

Answer 11

Uhm, usually I see two different girls saying that. One woman says she wants and respects a virgin and that's true for her.

Another woman wants experience, and that's true for her.

Answer 12

They prefer a guy whose a virgin, who wants left overs?!

I think of complaining about a lack of experienced guy, they just need to straight out say "what I like and don't like" the guy too.

Answer 13

while having a virgin can be refreshing, if she says she needs experience she may not be getting anything out of the s*x life and needs to be satisfied.

Answer 14

Because they had a high ego when they were younger and realized they were idiotic.

Answer 15

Some women do respect virgins but then again they don't want to be with a virgin.

the guy who wants to stay virgin until marriage and the women who is virgin but doesn't want to wait cant except him but she respects him.

Answer 16

I dont care whether he's a virgin or not a virgin man common ! I just want him to love me and be true to me. I dnt think any woman wud decide on a guy basing Only on this aspect. A man might ve slept with a million woman but still doesnt know how to make her feel good then whats the dam use ! They just carry an attitude that they slept with sooooo many woman and its easy for them to get any gal into bed ! But trust me they just have the attitude and no man can become a Guru of s*x unless and until he understands a woman and know her needs. This thing of wanting a virgin and again Not wanting a virgin is just hypocracy ! Maybe u r with a wrong woman who doesnt know what she wants in life. A true woman wud nt mind bout all these petty things. Atleast i dont !

Answer 17

Well I don't think they are changing "all of the sudden", you did mention that their view did not change until later in life. Since time has past and they themselves are probably more experienced as well.  I do not see them changing their preferences as an issue at all. It would make sense that one would want someone with similar experiences as themselves.

Answer 18

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Answer 19

I think some people have different ideas in different situations.

Maybe they were still young at that time, they respected guys who are virgine ... but ... they may have different thoughts when they grow up.

Answer 20

women do respect guys that are virgins, but they dont want to be with them.