Why do alot of men show their emotions?

Question

I show almost no emotions. And its on purpose. Sure, I feel sad, angry, frustrated, crazy, and any other way that normal human beings feel. But I never let people know this. Growing up without a father, in a bad neighborhood in la, I had to leave my emotions behind. I personally feel a guy is week if he crys. I have not cried since I was 15 when my grandmother died. And I made sure no one saw me do that either. I often feel sad or angry, but I let people think i'm fine. My reason for this is that I want an image that I feel no pain. When I was shoot in a drive by years ago, it hurt alot. But instead of crying and thinking I was going to die, I took the cell from my friend and calmly described what had happened to me to the dis-batcher. And in the ambalance I asked the guys if they could stop at mikey d's for a big mac. I also refuse to go to funerals of anyone I know (i've missed 5 already) because I refuse to let myself get sad infront of people.

Answer 1

And you do this to be tough? to give yourself the macho man title?

after sometime you'll notice people will think of you as heartless, though you arent.

why give people a fake tough guy image? it says enough that you miss funerals, im pretty certain people think you are being a ****,

so whats more to you seeming to be the butthead or showing emotion just like the rest of us?

we are humane not robots, let it go cry!

and btw men show emotion well simply cuz there human just like women we all share emotions,  

Answer 2

So you put on an act and question why other people don't bother.

They're strong enough to feel they don't have to.

Answer 3

Thats because you are afraid that people will think you are weak and helpless. You want people to think you are strong, capable, and independent. You are afraid to show people your emotions because you are afraid that they will read you.

I did not grow up with a father and have conflicts with my mother. I laugh, smile and chuckle but people describe me as an extremely cold, sarcastic, downright evil person. It hurts but I subconsciously ignores it. Both of us are afraid to be judged because we know what we were. We let not our emotions interfere with our thinking. But we are different. You don't show yours but I don't understand mine.  

Answer 4

Why do alot of men NOT show their emotions...ur a guy so u cant really judge...PPL like u MAKE ME SICK...grow some.......................................

Answer 5

wow, dude. you're life's been way tougher than mine. I clicked over 'cuz i don't really show my emotions either. my mom died of cancer when i was 9 and it just kinda numbed me. like nothing else is that important. but it seems like with the people you're around, you can't afford to show emotion because it's seen as a weakness in men. women are VERY emotional, so when a guy shows any signs of it, sometimes macho guys can associate that with being a pu55. fucx em. it's unhealthy to hold it all in. i'm not saying go cry in front of your bros. i'm just saying that if you're layin in bed and you shed a tear, who cares? let it out if you need to, but don't feel weird if you don't. don't force it just because it's "normal".

in fact, i have a hard time believing anyone if they get too emotional in front of people. it just seems to me that they're only doing it for attention and/or sympathy.

Answer 6

Thank you for sharing your story.

I cry every day because Im scared of the future;.

I really want to stop feeling sad, but I just cant;  Its really hard for me.  what should i do.?

Answer 7

It's called being human. Real men show their emotions and they cry and they don't care what anyone else thinks of them because they are secure in who and what they are.