Why do both parents THINK they deserve their kids' Respect?

Question

My parents did not deserve my Respect, so I never gave it to them......... as a child, teen or as an adult.... you have to EARN Respect........ from your kids too!

Answer 1

NO they dont sorry i am not a parent so from your point of view

they feed you, give you a place to live, clothes, and im sure they let you do things with freinds why the h**l dont they deserve your respect? you dont have to be there best friend but  you d**n well better give them some respect because there are other children out there that would be ready to take your spot

just be thankful they didnt give you up.. or beat you... or have an abortion u need to grow up and be thankful that you do have a place to call home because so many children dont. and so many dont even have parents..

Answer 2

I apologize for the copy and paste, but I just answered a very similar question to this one, and it's quite late:

I respect everyone (kids and adults) when they earn it. I don't "owe" anyone my respect simply because they are an adult or in a position of authority, but most people in my life earn it immediately. Part of earning that respect is being respectful to me as well, as it's difficult to respect someone who acts disrespectful towards you.

That being said, I always act respectful. Actually having respect for someone is out of my control. I can't force myself to respect someone. Respectful behavior, on the other hand, is something I can control, and I believe in acting with great respect towards everyone (saving for extreme circumstances).

Adults are not necessarily deserving of respect simply because they are adults, but acting respectful is, in a way, an act of self respect, and of respect for my parents (whom I do respect and love greatly, and for their own merit).

5 days ago

Answer 3

they think they do, but honestly they DON'T......   because they do not deserve it!

Answer 4

My parents made TONS of mistakes when I was young and life was really bad for awhile.  BUT- when I had children of my own I realized all they had to do, the sacrifices they made, sleepless nights, all the care and love that goes to your child... Then I realized that they really did love me more than I knew, and no one is perfect.  I then felt really bad for disrespecting them so long.  I am really sorry about your situation, but do try to forgive even if you can't forget so you can have peace inside.  Then it's up to them to try and make amends and you will know you did the best you could.

Answer 5

You should respect your parents no matter what.  They fed, clothed and cared for you from day one.  That alone is why I respect my parents.  They also did their best for me and my siblings.  But you are the child and like earning trust as you get older you must earn your respect from them.  

For you to say that your parents never earned or deserved your respect is highly immature.  Parents should receive respect from their children always, but children earn respect.  I didn't say that children earn love or attention, but they do need to earn respect by giving it to their parents.

Answer 6

I TOTALLY AGREE!!

people will say c**p like,"becuase the gave you life" or whatever. my parents NEVER deserved respect from me, and so i never gave it to them and neither did my two older brothers. i had a dad who was abusive at times and was never home and would leave for days at a time and a mom who is about to put me into foster care, so i TRULY do not believe that they deserve/deserved my respect in any way at any time.

i couldn't agree with you any more than i do.

Answer 7

i dont know it depends the only time i fell like my parents dont deserve my respect i must be dam mad at them but my parents put me through h**l iv been staying with family most of my life but they do deserve your respect because they brout you into the world and they can take you out

Answer 8

The parents that have to remind you have obviously f-d up somehow to lose the respect of the child. Yes, it should be natural for kids to respect adults, especially their parents but keeping respect is a whole other ball game, There are always extenuating circumstances. Some parents succeed in keeping their babies alive but that fact alone doesn't necessarily equate with respect for life, regardless. Parents should earn respect of their kids, On the flip side, there's spoiled brats who think the world owes them something more in which case they are not right to reserve respect for only themselves.

Answer 9

Your parents took care of you from birth, fed, clothed, bathed, cuddled, and raised you. You should have started respecting them from 6 months or so when you started to remember who they were when they got home from work every night. So yes, you have to EARN respect, and your parents earned it years ago.

Now you need to start SHOWING them that respect.

Answer 10

Parents do not deserve Respect.  they have to earn it, just as they have to show you respect, but first show you how to earn it......

Answer 11

Because they are your elders.  You always, ALWAYS, ALWAYS,  respect your elders.  

This is a sad generation and I am ashamed to say that I am a part of it... at least I don't act like it!  Thank God for the way my parents raised me to show respect.  A lesson in that would do you some good.

Answer 12

Parents think they deserve it because they brought you into this world. I know how you are feeling because my Mom is and has always been an idiot that involves me in her drama each and every day. You ask a good question. You are right though, after a period of time they have to earn it back again. If they don't so sad for them. You just do better with your children than they did for you.