Why do children disown their parents because of someone else

Question

my youngest son wants nothing to do with me because of a friend of my late husbands he took my youngest daughter and i in when we became homeless

Answer 1

What1

Answer 2

you guys should get some prof help

Answer 3

He must think you moved in with this guy and maybe thinks you love him and not his father-- i.e. in his mind he blames you for the split up and feels you have replaced his father with this guy.

That is not true (is it?) but he is blaming YOU right now.

Whatever your problems with your husband, your son sees you as the reason for the split up.

Answer 4

why didnt he take in ur youngest son too? dont u think that may be the reason he wants to disown you?

or maybe theres something else going on. ur late husbands "friend" is moving in for the kill......that is kinda low........why cant u get finincail assistance thru your community? im sure u would be much better off in ur own little apartment. my heart goes out to you and your children for your loss. you lost a part of you. your children lost a part of them. now is a time for your family to be supporting eachother. letting eachother know that you are there for eachother. not fighting. if you in anyway brought this whole issue on w/ur son, you must fix it. he is hurting. he lost his dad. you are the adult in this family. even tho you are hurting too, u must pull up your socks, and be the head of the family that ur husband maybe was. love ur children. they come first. no matter how old they are.  

Answer 5

Maybe he's upset that you ended up with his Father's friend so soon after his death!  Maybe he thought you were cheating with this man.  Have you asked your Son why?  Don't you think you should talk to HIM and find out?

Answer 6

i personally disowned my parents because of a friend i had when i was 18 and 19. i ended up traveling around the country homeless begging for gas money in a few cities for about 3 months. i think kids and young adults especially want to think that they are right about people and that they can make their own decisions when in reality they could use some advice from those with experience. sometimes you have to let them learn their own lessons. it can be beneficial in the end. i can tell you that my parents are closer now than we've ever been because of the situation i was in and what i learned from it.

Answer 7

I'm rich and we have a great family and own a gold mine too, but I think parents are disowned because they either act too nice and it embarasses the kids or they here a story which may BE false but they believe it about u , sorry its the truth eh.

Answer 8

Immaturity

Answer 9

Well did this guy not take your son in too?

Answer 10

good question....... i try not regret anything ive choose in life but i must say the biggest regret i have was leaveing a good life for a man(my now husband). me and mother now talk but its just not like it was

Answer 11

Disowing and just not talking or seeing each other are two different things.  Obviously your son is having some issues over what happen happened but over time he will probably get over it.  Disowing someone is more of a non-legal way of telling someone they are cutoff.  For example, my father has "disowned" my sister over a fight they had years ago.  While they are still father and daughter, he has made it clear that she is out of the will.  Disowing seems to be a word people throw around to make it sound very harsh.  In my opinion, people who disown others tend to "turn it around" after time has gone by.