Why do females tend to gravitate toward jerks?

Question

I'm not exactly complaining. I'm neither the jerk nor the nice guy; I'm somewhere in between the two. I think that's healthy. Regardless, I never seem to understand why women run after the guys that have the most intention of hurting them. This is a continual and circular process, and it has the same results each time. Moreover, I don't understand why people think that having a nice car, big house, et cetera is "cool." I can trace the cause of this effect, the cause of course being the media. But people don't necessarily have to buy into it. They chose to.

What exactly does having a ferrari mean? Does it make you cool? You could be the biggest fking prick and have a ferrari. To me, it doesn't mean much, if anything at all. I came to the conclusion that although life is pointless, the most important thing to thrive for is truth and knowledge. I wouldn't give up my knowledge for anything. All I need to do to reaffirm my stance is to take a look at the masses (and sorry if it's you).

Answer 1

Most women if they are faily nice looking are looking at the surface only. They generally never take tme to look past it so they are generally drawn to jerks. Most men that are good on the outside are not right within. I had a friend ask me why she can night find a guy like I have.So I said Christi if Hector ask you out would you say yes. she said no I told her thats why you will never have  man Like him. If you are to busy looking outside you will never find the heart that lies within. So you will always be with a jerk.

Answer 2

Not to take this question lightly, but most of us don't.  Many of us, myself included, have finely tuned "jerk detection radar".  But I developed that by meeting jerks.  I am personally attracted to men with manners and humor.  The money things, while helpful, are not important.  But that comes with age and experience.

At 19 you will meet lots of people.  Some will be jerks, and some not.  All anyone can do is make the best decisions they can day by day.

I have a friend who dated jerks for a very long time.. a string of them.  But she married (happily I might add) the guy who sounds a lot like you.  You are well on your way to becoming a good man.  That's a hard thing to find.  

I predict that yours will be a good life.

Answer 3

you sound cool!

i don't always gravitate towards the jerks but sometimes people have a hard time finding in between guys like you. a lot of times it is either jerk or nobody, ya know? probably similar situation with girls, s**t or single? seriously couldn't  agree more with your outlook.

PS: tell me where guys like you are hiding? ; )

Answer 4

I think too many jerks gravitate toward females ..

Answer 5

the fact that money makes people more attractive is a psychological truth.  can you see destitution ever having innate appeal?

Answer 6

Women always want what they can't have because they are basically stupid and think they can conquer. Sometimes they do but it is very rare. They can conquer a nice guy easily. They just are not happy until the push all the buttons. They just do not understand how to leave well enough alone. Not all women..but most.

Answer 7

Some women do have an attraction for the "bad boys" but they mostly grow out of it-if not I think they lack self esteem and often end up making life partners out of these jerks-poor them-not for me though-educated men are very desirable

Answer 8

Your reasononing behind this seems to be solid, and as for the why in the matter, Once can see that the media is at fault as well, just like with your example with a Ferrari. Just look at the type of shows found within such networks as "mtv", "v1", and even "disney chanel".... Our society for some odd reason finds norms in being snotty, in being disrespectfull. in all, the behavior itself really has to do with a rebelious, subconcious attitude handed down at large through individuals of a certain population. sub culture, if you will. being a direct assult against the high bar in morals. people act the way they do because that is the way they learn. I dont get it to much of an extent either... people lean towards that direction because they learn to do so. it is what they know. or in direct rebelion..