Why do feminists attack girls that are traditional by choice?

Question

The few traditional girls that are left in this country, are demonized by feminists calling them dependents, lazy, unsuccessful, etc. Why do they feel that it is necessary to attack traditional girls with homely values that are willingly traditional, they like to cook, they like to raise and home school there children, etc...

Answer 1

We don't.

I personally love to cook, and I happen to be very good at it, too.

My best friend, who I adore, is a stay-at-home-mother, and totally devoted to her daughter.

I am married, devoted to my husband, and childless by choice.  I have no objection whatsoever to other women choosing to have children, or, indeed, stay at home with them.  I just believe that it should be a CHOICE, not an expectation.

Answer 2

Indeed, post-modern feminists attack and defile anyone who is in disagreement with its ideology (which is inherently hateful, in the post-modern era based on the sequelae, readily apparent upon close scrutying, extensive research and detailed examination what "underlies" the rhetoric, in my opinion) be they male or female.

Answer 3

When did I do that? Could you copy & paste, please?

Answer 4

Feminist don't attack anyone as long as that person have made that choice.  Attack is also not what feminism is about.  It is about education about equality.

Answer 5

I have never heard a feminist attack a woman who has chosen a traditional role on here until recently, and i have been here quite a while.  I think there are quite a few misconceptions out there that many exhibit, but not all are unfair.

As a teacher I see nearly every kind of family.  I know some very wonderful traditional families in which the mother provides a clean, loving, caring an learning enriched environment for their children and their husbands. These women I call "stay at home moms" (SAHM).  I also know women who plop their children in front of the TV all day and only clean up every 4th day, just to sit at home and do...pretty much nothing.  These women I call "moms that stay at home" (MTSAH)....luckily SAHM far out number MTSAH.

Answer 6

We don't. I don't know where people keep getting the impression that we do.

Answer 7

Feminists do not attack women for choosing to raise children...feminists criticise people for reducing and minimising women's choices for that to be their only life choice!

Feminism is about valuing women's contribution to society in all its forms...but trying to explain this is like teaching my dog to click its fingers...not going to sink in is it?

Answer 8

They have this notion that what's good for them is good for all women. They're fighting a losing battle in the west, and the stay-at-home mother doesn't help propaganda, as she shows that not all women need feminism. In fact, many western women don't.

They've pushed the idea that all women consider men as enemies, competition and nasty ogres out to get them, and all women want to finish men off in the workplace, and can never exist in harmony with men at home. That isn't true, obviously.

While promoting 'choice for women', they labeled the choice of staying at home as 'wrong'. It is risky (God forbid, but what if something happens to the man?), but wrong? I don't think so.

Some feminists argue that traditionalist relationships tend to be more abusive. That's faulty logic, as an abusive man isn't going to care if his wife is feminist or traditionalist. He's going to beat her anyway.

Answer 9

Can you point out to me where feminists demonize or attack traditional women? Thanks.

Answer 10

I don't know, but I am traditional by choice & the few women I know that know this outside of my mom reject my ideas. Do I care? No, they won't be married to my husband or birthing my children.

Answer 11

Boo hoo. The mean and nasty feminist made fun of me.

First of all, other than some militant feminist writers of the 70s and Linda Hirshman, I have never once heard of or seen a feminist, especially here, attacking a woman who chooses to be a homemaker. As a matter of fact I've met more homemakers who proclaim themselves to be feminists than I have feminists who denounce homemakers. Why do so many of you think being a feminist and a homemaker are mutually exclusive? I've also seen more men attack homemakers than I have women.

As for "traditional girls" not being left in this country, one-third of women with children under the age of 18 do not work outside of the home, and half with children under the age of 1. I do not consider this a few. I think those of you who whine about the mean and nasty feminists giving you are hard time for wanting to be a homemaker need to grow some thicker skin and stop caring what others think of your choices. You just want to play victim.

Answer 12

The women I know and count as friends (some are "feminists," some not) come from a variety of backgrounds, and they represent many different situations.  Some are students, and are unmarried, and support themselves.  Some are married /0 children.  Some are married and planning families, and on it goes.  

None of us is at odds with the other because of our views on traditional vs something else.  I always thought feminism meant women supporting each other in their quest for equal recognition, equal rights, and an equal number of CHOICES.  I think that's what it's all about... the freedom to make that choice.

And, by the way. I worked at least part-time while my children were small.  I've been known to work 2 jobs when it was necessary.   I'm also a very good cook, a good wife, and a good friend to my traditional and non-traditional female friends.  All this while holding down a 40-hour job to which I commute 41 miles daily.  I applaud those few women I know who are able to stay home - whether with children or for other reasons.  It makes me even happier to know this was a CHOICE!  

Too many of the questions I see posted here - and elsewhere - make femininsm an "Us vs Them" issue.  I don't think that's the reality at all.

Answer 13

Feminists try to convince us that what they want for themselves (a career, a life without a husband) is what is good for all women. Therefore it makes them seethe when they see a happily married woman who looks after her children at home i.e. the traditional woman proves that not all women want feminism.

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For evidence of the attack on traditional women, please see Section 5 here http://www.freewebs.com/feminism-evaluat...

e.g.

"Being a housewife is an illegitimate profession... being a family-maker is a choice that shouldn't be. The heart of radical feminism is to change that". Vivian Gornick, The Daily Illini (Urbana), 25 April 1981. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vivian_Gorn...

Answer 14

Oh my gosh! I know exactly what you mean. All I want to be is traditional but everyone, especially my sister, just calls me a lazy golddigger with no life.

I don't think it's lazy at all, in fact being a housewife is a 24/7 job, literally, especially with kids.