Why do friends.........?

Question

I have a group of friends that are really nice and all. But when I throw parties or ask them out to eat , they never show up or call. In my opinion , I am good to them. I give them presents for their birthday , lets them borrow money and all that stuff. For example , today i invited them out for breakfast and they said they would be there. So i went to the place where we were gonna eat breakfast , they didn't show up. they ALWAYS do this to me. Why ?

Answer 1

You have the wrong friends, I have a close friend who just grad hs and she experienced the same thing first TWO years of school before she got sick of it and found better friends who treated her right and everything was MUCH better.

Answer 2

WOWO they sound like real jack asses find new friend for real. this may hurt but what if thier useing you.  but really dont let them do this to you say somthing. Be like wtf why are u always ******* ditching me or standing me up. I bet you could get such better friend than the ones you have now.

Answer 3

That's not right they should not treat you that way.  They are not being "friends" to you if they are acting that way.  Don't let them borrow money anymore.  I would look for some new friends while your at it.  You deserve better.

Answer 4

They are anti-social and are afraid you may ask for your cash back!

Answer 5

i hate to say this. but they maybe using you i mean how much money do you loan them??  either that or they're all jerks and thinks it funny stooding you up.

Answer 6

HI MY NAME IS SIA!SORRY,I DONT REAT WELL,BECAUSE I AM FROM GREECE!!!..........FIRST OF ALL YOU CAN  NOT EARN FRIENDS BY GIVEN YOUR MONEY(YOU ARE NOT THE BANK),AND THINGS LEAK THAT! THE ONLY THING YOU HAVE TO PUT ON THE "MARKET"IS YOUR SELF!SAW HOW FUNNY,SWEAT,CLEVER YOU ARE!DON'T BE A PUSH OVER!THAT KIDS ARE "PIGS"DON'T YOU EVER TALK TO THEM AND SHAW THEM THAT NOBODY CAN USE YOU!NOT ENYMORE!FIND REAL FRIENDS!.........

I AM SURE WHEN THE PIGS SEE YOU WITH SELFSTEAM THEY WILL COME BACK,BUT:THEY LOST THE GAME!!!BY NOW ON YOU DONT SPEAK TO ANIMALS : ) BE A 'BAD 'GIRL PEOPLE  WILL RESPECT YOU AND WANT TO BE YOUR FRIENDS NOT BECAUSE YOU GIVE MATIRIALS!!!BECAUSE YOU ARE SPECIAL!!!DONT FORGET

Answer 7

I feel it would be hard for anyone here to tell You exactly why YOUR "Friends" blow you off like that. I didn't check out your profile but from the sound of your question, you sound young and or insecure.  In which case i will ask you to look back on your entire relationship with these people.  If they have a history of doing this to you, and you have been consistantly nice to them, it would lead me to believe that you are being used/taken advantage of.  If i were you, and wanted to salvage your friendship with these "friends" and i do use that term lightly, I'd show them that you are better off with out them.  Make them jealous by NOT giving them that which is most valuable, Your Time.  Leave them alone.  Do your own thing with other friends.  When they wake, If they wake up, they will have a new found appreciation for what you have brought to the table... and if they don't wake up, they atleast you didn't waste your time trying to make them like you.  ^ and a half BILLION people on this planet, do waste your time.  Play the odds, chances are there is at least one person, if not a group of people near you that will appreciate you as a person.

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Answer 8

you don't Need them ... ditching someone would never, Ever come across a real friend's mind. You sound like such a good friend ... don't let them use you like that. Better friends are out there. Keep your head up, and better friends will find You.

Answer 9

You should find new friends, if they don't even call you that's a problem. If you have not don't anything mean to them then move on, they have no excise to treat you like that.

Answer 10

well sorry to tell u but it sounds like there using u =(

some friends are real some are jerks who are just lieing who u to get u stuff stop hanging out with them and kiss there bf lol

Answer 11

The answer is very simple, sweetie. They’re not true friend. You’re better of spending your time and energy on something/someone else than them.  

Answer 12

Because they're dumb people who are taking advantage of you. Find new friends.

Answer 13

dont let them take advantage of you

Answer 14

they are justing ignoring you, don't plan any plans with them, why dont you invited some one else for a change, and they will react to it

Answer 15

i was in the same position as you. i let it go on for years. they all gave me excuses of why they could never go but a person can only take so much. so finally i just confronted them about it. most of them didn't take it very well.. and lets just say we aren't the best of friends now but there was on friend who understood how frustrating it was for me and apologized. she said she never went because she just thought i would always be there for her even though she didn't show up to events for me. things are better now between me and her and i got new friends that show up any time i invite them somewhere.

Answer 16

They are really stuck up.

If they were really your friends they wouldnt be doing things like this to you.

I think they find it funny.

So get a new group of friends

Answer 17

you need to ask them, and tell them to be honest becuase it makes you feel horrible... idk why they would do that, dont tell them your secrets they dont seem trust worthy! good luck

Answer 18

listen those are NO friends you need actual friends... friends are always there for you and they dont stand you up not like that

and they probably only talk to you so you can give them money so dont give them money anymore and dont worry about them

Answer 19

it sounds like they are using you. sorry. been  there. they just want you presents or money be the friend everyone wants to hang out with or get a new friend group. sorry. hope i helped!

Answer 20

Why don't you ask them?  And if they were your friends they'd call to tell you if they weren't able to make it. (I'm not saying that you should assume they're not good friends)

Answer 21

their using you.

Answer 22

they probable don't like you they are just using you

Answer 23

idk maybe they just use u

Answer 24

it means that they are JERKS! I hate it when people are mean like that. I will be your friend. They dont deserve you if they dont even make the effort to show up for food.

Answer 25

Everyone has the one friend in their group that they just don't like and ostracize. Its probably you. Find new friends.

Answer 26

i Dont know ask them

Answer 27

They are prolly either using you.

Or they could care less.

It has nothing to do with you.

You are being a good friend they aren't.

Answer 28

Those friends of yours sound like a bunch of jerks! =(

It sounds like they are taking advantage of your kind and caring nature.

Answer 29

They might just be using you.... if you do things for them constantly and invite them places and they don't bother to call or show up.. that's a major sign that these are fair-weather friends. They talk to you and what not.. but when it comes down to it, they are never there to do anything for you or with you. I say you stop making plans with them, stop inviting them places... let them get the hint that you caught on to it. Once you stop calling them and asking them to do stuff with you, they will call you. I know this.... life is too short to deal with petty stuff like that. Find friends who will appreciate you and all you offer to a friendship.