Why do good girls always want the bad boys?

Question

I know my problem is getting guys with -potential- to be better, but have a lot of issues, and I think I'm Ms. Fix It or something ridiculous. Why do girls do this, or go for the guys that are likely to hurt them?

Answer 1

It depends..what makes a bad boy a bad boy? Is it superficial things like his dressing such as rocker,emo, urban vs.proper suit and tie b/c in my opinion a suit and tie guy can turn out to be a controlling abuser and the tattoo guy in the rock band or the guy with baggy urban clothing can turn out to be the sweetest and most sensitive guy. I know a lot of "proper" guys who are so insecure and try to control girls b/c they are so hung up on their own insecurities. I find that i go for the guys who look like bad boys and those who look like good guys. My friends are amused b/c when they got to know them they realized they were all dorky. So i guess i may be good at weeding out the bad ones. I would be considered a good girl and in the end i go for the one who treats me well. Dont get me wrong, some losers show up now and again but the key is having enough confidence to say "another guy will come along..there's the door"

Answer 2

I did that once when I was 15 and learned my lesson. Since then, if they're not already "good guys," they're probably not worth my time. 99% of the time, you can't "fix" someone.

Answer 3

read this article.

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Answer 4

Because every woman thinks they can fix the man!

The only one that can fix the man is the man himself.

We men don't change unless we absolutely have to, if we don't have to then we remain the same from our youth to our old age.

The women are always setting themselves up for failure. The man won't change unless he has to and changing to keep the woman is not going to happen because there are a lot of women out there for him.

Answer 5

i think which gals don't use her brain before make relations..and which want affection only we can say love at first site,,they falls in this situation.but i think many time they want bad boys for a frank look.but its bad think..i think our thinking should be match for relation.

Answer 6

I'm going to go out on a limb and say that going for the "bad" boy isn't a universal thing for women. I think some women like to be the victim and others think they can dominate anybody, including the "bad" boys.

Answer 7

as what i had observed from all their answers..

i'm suggesting you to read mine...

THIS is the BEST answer to THEir f****n answers..

weLL...

if YOU are a LADY.(im pointing you reader)..

DON'T ever TRY to CHANGE a man...

why??

it's a BIG insult to us man....

HAVEn't you noticed everywhere that ALL of us has a DIFFERENT,unique characteristics...whether you're a man or a woman..

I'll explain to why some other guy change when he's in a relationship..

actually,, there's no changes that happened,, it is just that it was really his characteristics...he just hide it because he wants to prove to all that  he really is a man..

Answer 8

You know that is a good question. I guess some people just think that they might be noticed more by other people, they might want more attention.

Answer 9

This book helped me break out of that vicious and self destructive cycle.

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself:  By Melody Beattie

Answer 10

Everybody talks about bad guys so you'd be the centre of attention. Bad guys are more natural than meterosexuals.

Answer 11

The real reason is how different they seem from the norm.  Girls want someone who has different views and have done more stuff...even if that stuff isn't great...we just want some excitement rather than boredom...

But a funny reason I read in a book is...

Back in the cavemen days we chose the jerks to be the fathers of our children, because we knew that they'd kill and steal more, resulting in enough food for our babies to make it through the winter...lol.

Seems pretty logical to me!  Haha!  We girls have that hole in our brains that developed back in the cavemen days...and now it curses us even though the same rules don't apply...

Answer 12

Because nice guys finish last

http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/single...

Answer 13

they may seem exciting at first, but in the long run they are unreliable and disfunctional.

read some self-help books at the library about finding positive relationships.

good luck.

Answer 14

because we girls wants the bad boys to change not because love is next to obedience but for himself and to let him realize love is not only for what you have and what you are in public but who are in your self and to god..

Answer 15

its like certain gurls like when  the boy have control of you. it makes you feel like no one can take u away from them because of how controlling they r.....a lot of bad boys got so much game to where they have u really feeling them n wanting them n they kno u just a soft good good female that they can run over....but thing is u gotta play the tuff role too...play it back on them

Answer 16

'Bad boys' are boring. Don't see a man's potential, seeing what you want to see, see what he is now.

If he's going to be careless with the way he treats me he can get away from me, there's always the next guy in line.

Answer 17

I do not like the bad boys. I like the intelligent ones that are funny and brave and classy.

Answer 18

maybe because good guys aren't always so good and the truly good guys....well......um....the nice way to say it is they are TOO good so there are the chess team boys or the bad boys. i would choose bad boys out of those options no offense chess boys.  

another reason is because some good boys dont really take a relationship so seriously and want the girl to take control because they are "shy" when what i want is a guy who takes control of the relationship so the girl doesn't feel awkward.   some guys that are good like other things more than a girl and would prefer HALO or KISSING.  

so i would choose a bad boy too haha

Answer 19

girls always go for the bad boys cuz the bad boys always stick out and are well known wich would make other boys jelous if they have a crush on that girl so when they make a big break up other guys will make thier move

Answer 20

Don't worry about it..

I'm the same way..

I dated a chick with serious issues hoping that I can help her out. It lasted about 2.5 years and then I just couldn't handle it anymore. I felt like I was living a Jerry Springer moment every day.

You don't see guys going for the average girl dressed from head to toe. Most guys would rather jump on a hot S****y 1/2 dressed women. It's pretty much the same as girls going for the "bad boys"

Answer 21

i can so answer this ?......

well im a good girl; always listen to my parents never want to do anything bad but

for some weird reason i always go for the bad boy the one who has enough issues for both of us and more lol it sucks but as ive realized

its because when hes around me hes himself he shows me aside of him that no one esle really ever sees and thats what gets me i love to feel like im the only one who knows the real him.

(you know what i mean?)

its like for a while he kinda needs me......

it just sucks that when you start to need them they feel its time to let go...

                                                           -butterfly

Answer 22

thats contradictory.  the ones who want bad boys arent good.  they are drama queens.  they end up getting cheated on and blame the men instead of their stupid decision.  i think it has a lot to do with image as well.

Answer 23

they only like bad boys cuz they got mustle and only for s*x but what happens when u get pregnant and have a baby and the bad boy just leaves then what happens thats why girls like 3 types of guys. Rockers, skaters, and sensitve guys or any combo of the 3.

Answer 24

Most girls don't know a bad boy when they see them cause they are sly.  They are masters of illusion.  Usually the bad boy doesn't emerge until after the girl is hooked!

Answer 25

Because it never will be boring.. i mean a bad boy usually will push you against the wall and just make out with you and he will protect you and take control in the relationship

Answer 26

bad boys are more attractive(yeah its a terrible thing for us girls to fall for them)

and also they are more experienced.( im not saying in s*x, but they can be more experienced in words too)

i havent really had a bad boy bf..just dates..

thank god i dumped them

muahahahahahaha!!!!

Answer 27

I noticed a lot of these answers say "you're not good if you're want the bad boys" etc., but I think it's because "good girls" have in their nature the desire to see the best in others and to want the others to live out the goodness they see in them. Of course, it's not that easy (if not downright impossible) to "cure" bad boys of the habits that they have set up over the duration of their lives. Good girls just seem to have false hope that they can make everyone better. I think a little of this false hope comes from Hollywood and the constant stream of romance movies wherein the bad boy is "fixed" and everyone lives happily ever after. Sorry girls, but that pretty much only happens in script. :(

Answer 28

I asked a question like this before. One lady said that it could be because they like to be controled and man-handled because their parents were controling. That can be true. Also, I think that the bad boys are glorified in movies, like The Breakfast Club or A Rebel without A Cause. In real life, it takes more than detention to soften a bad boy. Until they are softened, it might be smart to steer clear of them to save a broken heart.

Answer 29

It's an evolved behavior.  The dangerous boy in the tribe may someday challenge the tribal chief.  If the girl can become his mate, then she stands a chance to be the chief's wife.  That's my theory.

Answer 30

Because "bad boys" are usually less predictible and therefore more exciting.  Second, bad boys really don't care if they lose you or not.  Many women see this as a challenge to try to keep this man's attention.