Why do groups of 3 friends never work?

Question

Two's a company, three's a crowd is a famous saying; and unfortunately through experience I have come to realise that it is true. Groups of friends consisting of three members never seem to last long and it always ends up with someone feeling left out..

At work I ended up being friends with these two girls.. now i knew one of them before the other BUT the minute this other girl comes in, lets call her kate, she automaically seems to have ALOT more in common with my other friend then me! now were all friends.. somewhat but kate is friends with "us" because of her.. and im friends with kate because of my other friend. I always seem to find that ANY time I become good friends with 3 people someone always ends up feeling left out or becoming jellous and leaving the "group" i mean even on the hills (for those of you who watch that show) Audrina was friends with Lauren and LO is friends with lauren, lo and Lauren have more in common then Audrina, Audrina feels left out and starts to spend less time with them... and thats a very similar situation im in!!

Answer 1

I have had both good and bad experiences with having 2 best friends in the past and in my opinion it sometimes works but most of the time if they fall out you are stuck in the middle and when it comes to it alot of the time you are forced to choose. This is the reason i think 2 or 4 people is better.

Answer 2

I'm in a group of 3 friends and it can really rock or hurt... at the same time

For the hurt example, two of the three could be off doing something fun together, and the third feels left out.  Even if A and B didn't mean to exclude C, it happened, and you can't reverse it.

Then the rockn' example- sleepovers and outings are always so much more fun with 3, and 3 people provide more conversation and more bonds

However, groups of 3 can also create a lot of drama- what if B and C talked about A behind her back? Or what if B decided that she wanted to join a different clique?

My experience in my group of three is that if you're in one, you should be strong enough to get hurt, then get over it.

Answer 3

what you juss said is usally why groups of 3 dont work. 2 of the people become better friends and one is left out or someone becomes jealous.  

Answer 4

You may not realize it but you just answered your own question. Groups of three never work out because 2 of the friends always end up being better friends and the other one ends up feeling left out and finds her own friend and leaves your group of three.

Answer 5

For me it can be the same way. That's why I never go places with just 3 friends. I make it either 2 or 4 because it makes it awkward for one person or the host has to try too hard to include both to avoid the situation you are talking about.

Answer 6

wow. that's unfortunate. i learned something very important from the movie "about a boy". two is not enough. you need three at least because if there's only 2, and on drops off the edge, then the second one is left alone. yeah, you need three at least

my two bests and i are very different. we all have very different individual personalities. that way no one feels left out because all 3 of us together fill in places where the others are weak or struggling. you just have to find the right 2 people. and make sure you make strong bonds individually and as a group. friendship takes time. and me and the other 3 musketeers aren't perfect. we have times when someone feels left out because i go to one for certain problems and the other one for other problems because they have different strengths.

Answer 7

I've had three experiances , one worked out, and two didn't

Answer 8

that sort of happened to me. i was friend with these 2 girls for a long time then they started becoming close an di was left out them we sort of migrated and ended up being a group of 13 best friends. but anyways i dont know why that happens. weird

Answer 9

in combat, and in business, 3's work very well.  In romance and close friendships, not so much.  It's nevr an easy thing to work with, some friends of yours not liking other friends, and a lot of time you feel that YOU are the one in the middle.  Set yourself to 'i am friends with more than just YOU" mode, and if some friends walk away because of something so petty, they were never real friends at all.  Hard fact, not a lesson.

Answer 10

Because two of the three people will end up growing closer together, leaving the third person out.

Thats happen with me & two other girls before.

At the begining of the year, it was me, J, and C.

then, me & C started hanging out alot more, and J got jealous. Causing J to hate C, and now i feel a bit guilty.

But its not like i said she couldn't be friends with her...

idk, sometimes they work, often times they dont!