Why do guys get offended when you ask if they are g**s?

Question

I met this guy on-line he was so crazy about me. I asked him if he has ever been with a guy before and he said yes. I asked him because I noticed something in his friend from the pics he emailed me. His friends looked g*y and he said that it was his brothers boy friend. He said he does not date men anymore. Ok..ever since I asked him that..he is not talking to me at all. I guess it's over.

Again I'm starting to be friends with this guy, we went out once and he is cool. So today while chatting on line I asked him if he had been with a guy before. He just got so mad and I'm telling you...he just went on and on. Why get so mad...I will never be mad if someone asks me If I was a L*****n...I would tell them NO. Is it wrong to ask?

Answer 1

He's probably getting mad because he's probably been asked the same question by other people so many times, or he just doesn't feel right that he had a g*y relationship, or he just doesn't want to remember it.

But no, I wouldn't get offended if someone asked me.

Answer 2

because they think that maybe every girl will think that

Answer 3

They are not secure with their masculinity.  My question to you is, why do you ask every guy you talk to if they've been with another man?  It just seems strange, I've never thought to ask a guy that before.  

Answer 4

Any guy that gets offended by an honest question like that is insecure. It is an interesting question to be asked. I am curious why someone would ask that one. When I woman asks, is it because she wants a piece of me or hoping for an escape LOL!

Answer 5

Sounds like he's very insecure about his orientation.

To take being asked a simple question as an insult

means he's got some hidden issues going on. So

you're better off leaving him alone if he's got such

a short fuse. No telling what's gonna set him off next.

A dude like that could end up in a psycho ward.

Answer 6

every one makes g*y (its not)seem like its a bad thing soo maybe thats why they are affonded

Answer 7

Popo is not quite sure- Perhaps it lowers their ego?

Please take the time to answer Popo's thought provoking question.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=2...

Answer 8

I'm not really offended when people ask, but I actually AM g*y, so that might explain it xD

Answer 9

Most guys think that being asked it is basically stripping away their masculinity. Guys want to be macho and very stereotypically manly.

They don't view g*y men like this because all they picture is the feminine ones, not the masculine ones

Answer 10

I dont think it is right to ask anyone about their sexuality. Just assume you dont know.. and then when they tell you about who they like, or they mention their partner, then you will know. As for who they went out with in the past, thats not your business unless you are dating them.  

Answer 11

It's wrong unless you know because it makes the guy think you thought they were g*y, otherwise there would be no reason to ask.

i.e. if someone says something stupid you say, "Are you retarded?"

Answer 12

Homosexuality in itself is offensive (to some). and if your not g*y its an insult to the highest degree.

Answer 13

Guys equate homosexuality with emasculation.

Answer 14

He's an emo.

Answer 15

guys are rlly sensitive about their masculinity.  if you're going to ask that question, i suggest u do so l8er in the relationship.

Answer 16

It is so much harder for guys. Society today looks at g*y or bi women as "s**y". It is a turn on for a lot of men so women aren't as afraid to admit it. When a guy is surrounded by a primarily straight lifestyle... it can be uncomfortable, and can even become offensive to some men, when they are "accused" of homosexuality... I think there is nothing wrong with asking. You don't want a typical guy that gets all macho and offended by your honesty. Just ask. You'll weed out the simple minded that way :)

Answer 17

guy's r all ways abit tochie abut that kinda thing lol

Answer 18

Most straight guys find it offensive to have their sexuality questioned therefore you were lucky you asked by chatting and not in person or he could have given you a black eye.