Why do guys go for the wrong girls? Are they stupid?

Question

I love my best friend and she's like a sister to me, but she's a heart breaker. A lot of guys think she's hot and they're always hanging out with her and calling her and everything. Some of these guys seem really genuine and sweet and treat her really good. But for some reason she says they're too nice for her and hurts them and goes out with some ****. Her last boyfriend (who she "loved") cheated on her. I felt bad for her because she really liked him and thought they would last forever. I warned her about him saying that he's a pothead and he's stupid and she deserves better. She didn't listen. So now she's talking to a new guy "John" who seems really friendly and likes her. But for some reason my friend went back to her **** ex-boyfriend and hooked up with him. John was upset with that, but my friend told him she's over her ex now. I know she's not, but this John doesn't have enough brains to realize he's wasting his time. She does this to every nice guy and they're all stupid and don't realize that she doesn't like them. It aggravates me because the only guys I attract are these crazy weirdos and all I want is a nice guy...and there she is taking those guys I want for granted.

Why do nice guys go for the wrong girls? Are nice guys stupid?

Answer 1

That question is as old as time.

Answer 2

"Why do nice people go for the wrong people?"

I believe that nice people often choose the wrong partners because they have a high tendency to see the best in everyone. One might say that they see the world through the innocent eyes of a child.

Because of this, they often have trouble picking up the tell-tale signs of a bad/unpleasant person. In other words, a nice person would give almost anyone a chance in a relationship.

"How does he know this?" you might be thinking to yourself. I know this because I used to be a relatively nice person when I was young. I thought that most of the girls that I met were decent people and that I could have a relationship with most of them if they reciprocated the feeling.

Fortunately, none of them found me to be a desirable candidate. Somewhere between my freshman and sophomore year of high school, the cynicism started to kick in and I was suddenly able to see most of the women (and men technically) for the monsters that they truly were. As such, I was no longer as nice to people as I used to be and I distanced myself from such women as much as possible.

These days, I only show kindness by accident, circumstance, or to those that I feel deserve it.

If you want to have a relationship with a nice man one day, then you might want to hurry because he could end up like me if people keep exploiting his kindness and treating him like a second-class citizen.

Good day and good luck.

Answer 3

It depends on the person. Some people make good choices, some opt for bad choices. Your story seems to confirm that this applies to both men and women, so I'm not sure why you are singling out men.

Answer 4

It's all about the looks for them. They think it's cool to have the hottest girl but care nothing for her personality, which means they don't truly care about her either. Some nice guys are simply naive and don't understand that beauty does not alwas equal nice. He's probably too nice and doesn't want to break her heart or something stupid. I'm a guy and I think looks are important, but they're lower on the list for me. I just want to find someone nice who I can have fun with and be myself. I'm 17 and it's hard to find girls like that. So I'm just going to wait till college where all the dumb ones will be filtered out and I'll find some good ones.

Answer 5

b/c guys are all about physical appearance, it's the way they are made.  they could try to be less shallow, but for the most part they can't help it

Answer 6

they want a hot girl....im sure a nice guy will find u sometime