Why do guys treat me like this

Question

I'm a young lady, average looking, and dress in jeans, polos, and t's. I don't have a big chest. I can't afford to get my hair done often so most times it looks messy. I'm quiet & shy so it's not like I sought them out.Yet, men esp. older ones ask me do I want a friend a promise to take care of me. People say your beautiful, blah blah blah. Most always ask me my age first. They won't take no and keep talking to me even as I walk away. It seems to be getting worse. There was a guy (I could smell alcohol on his breath) followed me around the store. I don't live in a good neighborhood & sometimes I do see girls go with these guys. That makes me sad.

I feel dirty & cheap. I also feel like these men think I'll settle for anything. Why?

Lastly, why do a lot of guys insult me before they flirt with me. What's the point in that?

Answer 1

This is seriously worrisome. Please tell me you carry a knife, pepperspray, a taser, or something with you when you're out! If another man approaches you, tell him no, and if he persists, pull out your cell phone (if you have one) and dial 911. You are going to be in a really bad situation with one of these guys some day, so carry some sort of weapon and avoid it as much as you can.

Answer 2

Sorry to say this, but if YOU feel dirty and cheap, then that is how you will be treated.  

Set a goal for yourself - get OUT of your bad neighborhood.  

Create a new YOU.  A simple thing like getting your hair done would only cost at most $20 for a nice styling haircut.  Your chest doesn't matter.  Find a new place to hang out - so older guys aren't bothering you.  Get a hobby - join a gym or club - enroll in a college course - there are so many ways to improve upon yourself - the first thing you need to do is tell yourself that YOU WILL DO IT!

Answer 3

Guys are stupid end of story

Answer 4

Some of those people prey on girls with low self-esteem, so that's where you need to stand up for yourself. First of all, why do YOU feel dirty when THEY are the ones who harrass you? It's not YOUR issue, it's theirs, so lose the guilt and stop blaming yoursel. Second, try and adapt an attitude there. Not a bad one, just one that says that you're an independent, strong woman, and that you don't NEED a man to take care of you (mind you, if the right one comes along, letting him take care of you every now and then is good). If you work on your self-esteem, they'll soon enough leave you be. As for the hair? Just make sure it's always washed and combed properly before you leave the house, then it's just fine as it is ;)