Why do guys wana pay for EVERY date ?

Question

Men stop being doormats . Women have jobs too. I mean do u do it cause its the only way to get laid, she will dump u, why do u do it , why not have her pay every other time ? Old fashion dating rule were for the 70's ( messed up years when we couldnt do much career wise) this is the 21 century, times have changed ( women make money, I dont care if you say they make less, the point is they make money) and if they really like/love u they shouldnt have no problem paying/taking u out ( within there budget) . I know my way of thinkin from a women point of view is rare but Im only about equality. Most men who pay all the time dont really enjoy it ( dont be shy boys you know its true), they do it cause we/society makem fell they have to do it and nobody feels good to have to do something especially if has to do with there bank account . Women arent better than you( just equal) ,so u dont have to treat them better than you want to be treated? Men dont be doormats.

Answer 1

they dont always necessarily WANT TOO,  ( sometimes though ) but they just feel like it is thier JOB, its traditional and respectful for girls, its always been like that

Answer 2

just because a man pays for dates doesn't make him a doormat.

Ever think that he is paying because:

...he is considerate?

...he is using it as a power-play?

...it is in his culture to pay?

....his girlfriend is broke?

....his girlfriend forgot her wallet?

.....he is paying her back for money she lent him?

There are a million reasons why a man could want to pay.

So what.

Answer 3

I offered to pay, but the guy said "no let me do it." I offered a second time, and they said "come on..really..let me do it."

So, I'm not going to fight?

Maybe they think we're not being serious or that we're just testing them when we say we will pay.

Answer 4

I don't expect a man to pay. I offer to pay, and if he says no then that is fine. If he accepts, then I pay and that is fine.   Most of the men I know would choose to pay, but not out of lack of confidence. They are certainly not doormats, they are just the type of men who do these kinds of things.  They also hold doors open, help me with my coat etc.  They feel good making me feel special, and I show them respect and let them know they are appreciated and do things for them.

It's sad that such simple acts have turned into issues of contention.  Its as simple as giving...on the part of both people.

Answer 5

thank you for making sense.

Answer 6

Why oh why do women not want to enjoy being a woman?

I swear you women are out to ruin it for us all.

Yes, please, keep telling men how unworthy we all are.

A man who pays for a date is not a doormat, a woman who thinks she's not worth a guy spending a little money on her is pathetic.

You date guys who wouldn't bother ever paying for an ice cream and I'll stick to the doormats eh?

Answer 7

Molly sweetheart I don't think I could have said it better myself.

This really is a non issue, a mountain made out of a molehill.

I always offered to pay my half but if he said he would cover it then I would consider it a nice gesture and log it in my memory files for some later surprise. Maybe a randomly planned and adventurous trip for the both of us or something else to let him know I appreciate him.

This is just another example of how kind,little gestures of courtesy are being shoved out of our society when we should be kicking and screaming to keep them here.

Answer 8

I have never let the guy I'm seeing pay for me before, but I'm starting to sense that he feels bad about it, so I'll throw him a bone next time. After that, all bets are off.

Answer 9

Why don't you ask the women why THEY expect us to pay?  Why is it our faults for acting like men?

There is no equality today...there never will be.  

Today many women make more money than men and still expect the guy to pay.

Answer 10

Women had jobs even in the 1970s.  And most women today are still doing the same sort of jobs they were doing then.  Men traditonally paid for dates because they had more money than women, and I think most men still do.  so why not just enjoy it and stop complaining?

Answer 11

you sound a little too eager to get out on a date. no one has asked you out in a while, huh? you're even ready to pay!

...and none of this is surprising bc you sound like a feminist whose stick up her *** scares away any guys who come close. but you'll grow out of this phase once you get tired of being a weirdo.

Answer 12

He doesn't have to pay every time.

I can't tell you how many times I've become the support for men, and it kind of disgusts me. Get a job, man.

Hey, I believe in equality in a relationship. At the beginning, however, his willingness to buy a dinner or buy flowers or something sweet indicates that he's interested in more than a quick lay. A man won't be seeing action from me, including cooking, meeting my family, or s*x until I know he's invested. If he's broke, then he can invite me to go watch stars in a park or go fishing or something.

Answer 13

well i mean every girl is different. some may expect us to pay for them since that traditionally happened, so we show that we really want the woman by paying for her. it's just showing we care for the women we pay for

Answer 14

we don't.

Answer 15

If you want to pay for a date, pull out your wallet and pay for it. Society tells men that to be a true man they have to pay for dates, but when you communicate to him that you want the relationship to be equal in financial matters, I bet he will agree and let you pay for dates as well.

Answer 16

We don't.  Unfortunately, most girls are still living in the 70s and demand that guys pay for them every date, shower them with gifts, and buy them an expensive diamond ring if we want to marry.

Answer 17

so maybe guys wanna be kind and pay for u.. who cares let them pay for u. it doesnt mean that women dont make money. guys are just trying to be nice to the girl hes with and show her that he has money to support the both of u

Answer 18

I don't mind paying for a date but if she wanted to pay, by all means I wouldn't stop her.