Why do i act so dif. ?

Question

well when i'm around my friends i am like the CRAZYEST person you will ever meet and im really funny and stuff but when im just like talking to someone who like sits next to me in a class who i dont know really well but still talk to i act really shy... so how can i take my spontanacity (dont even know if thats a word..) every where and just be the crazy person that i am on the inside..i guess i just get intimidated so does any one hav any suggestions.. it would be much appreciated thanks....

♥jess..

Answer 1

Natural things don't occur under force!

That's why they are natural that's why you are so cool and that's why if someone else tries to be you he won't succeed

Answer 2

It is a case of self;

Lack of self-confidence or low self-esteem is classified as a negative emotion or delusion, as it exaggerates one's limitations in capacity, quality and potential for growth.

Lack of self-confidence can be made up of several different aspects like: guilt, anger turned inward, unrealistic expectations of perfection, false sense of humility, fear of change or making mistakes, depression etc. Depression can actually also be a result of a lack of self-confidence.

From "The Art of Happiness at Work" by the Dalai Lama and Howard C. Cutler, M.D.

"...to have greater self-awareness or understanding means to have a better grasp of reality. Now, the opposite of reality is to project onto yourself qualities that are not there, ascribe to yourself characteristics in contrast to what is actually the case. For example, when you have a distorted view of yourself, such as through excessive pride or arrogance, because of these states of mind, you have an exaggerated sense of your qualities and personal abilities. Your view of your own abilities goes far beyond your actual abilities. On the other hand, when you have low self-esteem, then you underestimate your actual qualities and abilities. You belittle yourself, you put yourself down.

This leads to a complete loss of faith in yourself. So excess--both in terms of exaggeration and devaluation--are equally destructive. lt is by addressing these obstacles and by constantly examining your personal character, qualities, and abilities, that you can learn to have greater self-understanding. This is the way to become more self-aware."

Answer 3

1.try imagining tht u r sittign with ur friend and behave like u normally do

2. think "what will i do if my friends were around me in this situation" and do tht  

Answer 4

Don't be afraid... think about it... that's what philosophy is all about, and this is why you've asked your question in this category. Because all you need is to question what your questioning... it doesn't make sense? You ask what you already know but refuse to admit... what if you revealed who you really are to a stranger? Or to someone of the opposite s*x that you find attractive? Your first thought would be... I hope he/she likes me, but in reality you are too afraid for them to dislike you... which is why you are shy and afraid.

And in this case, you should use time to reflect on your thoughts and conquer that negative thought that lowers your sell confidence to finally judge how you should act with new people... be courageous

Answer 5

I think the best way to unleash your spontanacity is just to be individualacious.

Answer 6

omg!!!! i am just like you...that's wut i always do...mayber if one of your friend swas sitting on the other side you could talk to the other perosn. just try with small talk ;) get to know the person well and once you get to know them...im sure ull be very outgoing with other people aswell

Answer 7

b/c your friends wont judge you and u feel more relaxed around them trust me Im the same  

Answer 8

Your behavior is a natural female instinct within the social jungle where there are risks of various sorts.

There is a greater level of trust among friends and less trust between strangers.

Your question is really a complaint about the realization that it's not possible to be best friends with everyone.

Answer 9

...no secret...you know when to turn on and when to avoid it...24/7...enjoy...