Why do i always mess up?

Question

I always mess up with lads. I'm fed up of falling and crying over them when it's my fault. I had been seeing a lad, not going out, just going on dates and i said to him that i didn't want to start fully going out until after my holiday because i wanted to be single for it. now i've come of holiday and i got with a lad over there, had s*x etc. i told the lad that i had been going on dates with as i didn't want to keep secrets and lie to him. i thought it was for the best. but it wasn't, he said i had cheated, i don't see it like that as we weren't going out, but he said that we may as well have been. i always mess up, i've cheated before and i just cannot hold a relationship down. i really liked this boy and i thought we could have had something. he seemed genuine but now he won't talk to me. i feel so upset with myself. i know theres time but why is it that things never work out. would you class it as cheating?

Answer 1

Yes I would count it as cheating. This boy was under the pretension that you and him would be entering into a relationship when you returned. He most definitely wouldn't have gone and had s*x with someone he'd just meet while waiting for you to get home.

Why don't you just not worry about boys for 6 months? Don't concentrate on trying to find a boyfriend or having s*x. See if you're happier, because I can guarantee you will be! You sound like you're a mess. If you've cheated before then chances are you'll do it again, so don't let it happen. Just try and make some good quality friends and then a relationship may come out of that one day. If you force yourself into a relationship then chances it wont work out.

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Answer 2

That is cheating.