Why do i beat myself up over stupid things and how can i stop?

Question

this is really stupid but i beat myself up over really dumb things like i should have bought this shirt on sale (it was £2.99 and it matched my shorts perfectly- PJ set) but i didnt buy it as i beat myself up not to spend so much money (er, yeah, £2.99 lol) . um, anyway, how can i stop this? thanks

Answer 1

I hear you red.  How about looking at your situation like this:

1. Instead of calling your actions "stupid" call them appropriate actions.

2. Instead of beating yourself for spending money, tell yourself that what you did was worthwhile because it makes you a wiser person.

What I am suggesting is to turn something negative into a positive because what one considers a negative, others may perceive it as a positive.  All you need to do is to work on your interpretation of your actions and when you do, you will take a different approach to how you view yourself.

Answer 2

I do the same thing, only not as intense as you do. Just let it go. Tell yourself you're better off without the shirt, and you would rather spend the money somewhere else.

Answer 3

You have high expectations for your self.  And it looks like you take every opportunity to put yourself down.  Talk to a trusted friend or get a councilor to explore how you can change your 'self talk'.

Answer 4

Well, do you usually by tons of stuff? If you buy a lot of stuff and told yourself that your going to stop then you might be using your self-control. In that case it's a good thing you didn't buy it even though it was just 2.99

Answer 5

I am sorry. I could not correctly intrepret about you '''beating'' yourself up. If you have not done it physically its absolutely fine to ''regret'' over things. But, if you have done it ...i mean actually did some ''self-harm'', you need help. Because people who do that over ''stupid and simple'' things like over spending, or even dirtying their floor, or doing something over compulsive. you need help. help yourself...iam sorry if i may have been wrong.

Please analyse.

good luck

Answer 6

accept yourself and others for what ever reason...so what its a shirt will you care about it a year from now?