Why do i feel hurt ?

Question

ok.. my son is 2,5 years old and before i quit work due to 2nd baby -she's now 5 months..my son was with grandparents and cousin and by age 1,5 with my hubby..My hubby lets him do whatever he wants...witch creates a lot of problems between us and hes stubborn.

I am the one that discipline's our son-you know clean your toys make

sure he eats,brushing teeth itp..anyway when my hubby goes to work he cries for him but a lot of times we trick him and he's ok when i say that daddy left to work...when my son goes to grandpa and plays with cousin he always cries when grandpa drops him off....

The bottom line is when he cries for daddy or grandpa i feel hurt .I feel like he doest want to be home with me, that maybe I'm too tough on him.I just feel hurt that he doest cry when I leave

It that normal for kids to not wanting to be home but instead with grandparents and 7 year old girl cousin..???

My son doest talk yet so its hard to ask him anything,but I'm trying to explain that grandpa must go home to sleep and dad must go to work.

Answer 1

at that age, kids are only close to those who they see often...so wait until they are older and they'll know who mom is.

Answer 2

Kids, especially in their "terrible twos" go through so many phases.  Right now, it sounds like he is going through a I ONLY want daddy phase.  Phases change, and so do kids, so even though the hurt feeling is understandable, just know, he still does love you.  Also, you should try to get your husband to step up and help with discipline.  Talk to him honestly about it, and ask him if he wants to have an organized, well mannered son, or a picky eater, messy son, who will never listen?  I'm sure he wants your son to turn out well, so if you just ask him to step up, it may take a while, but he should eventually help out with the discipline.  Also talk to the grandpa about discipline, and just explain what methods you use (such as time outs).  But yes, it is normal that your son would want to go to spend time with his grandparents and his cousin.  Grandparents usually spoil their grandchildren, and of course he would want someone around other than his baby sister to play with.

Answer 3

ur child was in a rutine for a year and now u have changed it this is hes way of telling u hes not used to u being there play with him and take him 2 the park he just needs to no mummy is here now and this is hes new rutine it will take time but he should calm down soon hope this helps

Answer 4

Kids at that age will clearly express how they feel. The truth is, they like grandpa and daddy better, which is understandable if they don't discipline them. It's perfectly normal..They just don't know any better. Think of it this way: If you left for good, would your child notice? If so, he cares. If not, perhaps you need to spend more time with him and have daddy take some responsibility.

Answer 5

sounds like a 2 1/2 year old! But discipline is great for kids and gives them a sense of security so dont worry about that! He's just used to his grandparents and cousin, that is a great thing! It shows that they love and pay attention to him when he is with them.

It has nothing to do with his feelings for you, as a matter of fact, kids usually feel like they can be themselves with mom so we get all the c**p, but really its good c**p because we are thier soft place to  fall, we shouldnt judge, just let them be them.  Sounds like you are doing the right thing by explaining just what gdad and dad are doing, and that he will see them again soon! Hang in their, I never had this problem, because my older girl was a mommy leech and that was annoying too! We can never win, only try to understand and reach out to other mommies.

Answer 6

When your kids are grown and gone, which are you going to regret more?

The fact the house was sometimes messy, or that you didn't get enough fun time with them while they were babies?

What is your priority?

Clean teeth or quality time?

Maybe you should loosen up a little and have fun with the kid.

Play games.

Let things slide.

These years pass SO quickly!!!!

You might be missing out on the best parts by stressing over things that aren't really all that big a deal.

If they are a big deal, make daddy step up.

You're entitled to fun and games just as much as he is.

Hire a maid if you can.  Saves marriages every day.