Why do i feel so guilty when having s*x with my husband? ?

Question

i was abused in my last relationship and now tht im married i feel so guilty after s*x? what is wrong with me? i love my husband and am really attracted to him but these abuse issues of the past are getting in the way of me truly enjoying my marriage...what do i do?

Answer 1

Why not tell your husband you feel guilty? and why. If there are no more skeletons in the closet, and you still feel guilty, I would think it could be an aphrodisiac!

Answer 2

Professional help a.k.a the shrink. You failed to cope with it on your own (not your fault, don't feel guilty). Please call right away before it ruins your marriage.

Answer 3

prolly cuz your hiding a fetish that needs to be revealed

get freaky wit dat tang

THEN TAKE A FLOATER

AND SHUV IT BACK IN

Answer 4

You should see a therapist to help clear your head of the guilt. I dont know why you have it. I was mentally abused and now my relationship now is not looking up. email me if ya want to. I would love to chat more but need some sleep. But I think you need to clear your head-you have nothing to be guilty of. Enjoy your husband and let him help you work thru this.

Answer 5

sweetie you need to first express these feelings to your husband to let him know that it has nothing to do with him. than you need to seek counseling for these feelings and the past abuse you suffered. GodBless

Answer 6

I think you need to deal with the past to move onto the future and be happy with your  husband. He deserves the best and your full attention and love. Go get help from a professional -deal with the past. You should not feel guilty about having s*x with your husband. It should be beautiful and un-ashamed.

Answer 7

honestly - see a psychologist. they will help you relax and overcome the issue without drugs or any of that. Please do it. Why live the way you are right now?

Answer 8

abuse does a number on your head. forgive yourself because abuse is not your fault. its not s*x with your husband that makes you feel guilty. its having s*x that makes you feel guilty. you have to tell yourself over and over that you are so so allowed to have pleasurable s*x and enjoy it.  

Answer 9

Go get counseling... otherwise the issues will always be there.  Good luck... I really hope you can work things out... for the both of you!

Answer 10

elaborate on said 'abuses'....were u beaten up on? did he give u his stiff one too hard? Wut?

Answer 11

Accept the whole thing en be praying alot ,en couseling can help all the best