Why do i feel this way??? help, please????

Question

okay. well, i'm a very touchy person. and i hate any physical contact.

i hate, hate, HATE it when anybody hugs me, except for friends. when my family gives me a hug or a family kiss, i get so angry, but i just pretend not to be bothered by it.

i hate when people hold my hand. i just want to squirm from their grasp.

it's not my feelings for the person that determines this, it's just the thought of people affectionately touching me makes me angry. i don't like being touched.

i don't tell anybody not to hug me because i don't want to make anyone feel bad, especially my father who is very affectionate with me. he is a great father and i love him, but i get so uncomfortable being hugged, and having him put his arm around me in the car.

my sister is autistic, but not to a high degree. she's just very touchy and doesn't like people next to her. she also has trouble meeting people and comes off as very quiet and timid.

idk if this is genetic or anything. but i'm pretty sure i dont have autism.

why am i so touchy and how can i teach myself to calm down and appreciate the love my family gives me?

Answer 1

I really don't know what to say about this one but... it just doesn't feel right for me to do nothing when you say... "help." So here goes:

Don't be superficial when it comes to the gestures your family gives you. Underneath those signs of affections are just much unconditional love. Please focus on those. When was the last time you showed love to your family and how did you feel? It must've felt good, right? That's how love is. I think love is so much more about giving than getting.

If you haven't, I sure hope you'll find yourself exchanging love with your family. Just remember to tell them these three things: "I'm sorry," "Thank you" and "I love you."

Love is more about "Why?" than "What?"

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Answer 2

There is absolutely no way i can answer that easily... or is there? Well, I am "NOT" such a big fan of touching either. I hate holding hands, and I despise any affection that doesn't come from family. Maybe you're Obsessive Compulsive. I 'really' hope I helped. Good Luck!

~*WinglessAngel*~