Why do i have a problem with small talk?

Question

i cant think of what to say,

i cant talk to people and hold an ordinary conversation...

i have nothing to ever say...

i dont think of questions to ask..

i just am terrible at talking...

why? is there some kind of block?

Answer 1

I have the same problem and I hate it!

Answer 2

you might be over thinking it.  I bet you don't have this problem talking to your parents or a close relative, because you feel comfortable around them.  With a stranger though you're aware of it which makes it worse.  Try to just be yourself and don't try too hard to make a conversation, since it will come out as artificial.  It might also have to do a bit with your personality, if you are shy or serious then it is a bit harder to be natural.  

Answer 3

Well, can't say that I've ever had that problem because I'm always talking, however it may be because the people around you are of somewhat lower or higher intelligence than you and often talk about things that never really cross your mind

It could also be a lack of experience in socializing

Or it could be a genuine mental health problem

I recommend talking with people you can really relate to and share things in common with, try this over a long period of time and you may just get the hang of it.

If that doesn't work you should try seeing a mental health professional or something, good luck and I hope this helps

Answer 4

Maybe you are just a private person who can't trust anyone even to talk to them until you know them a little longer and better. Maybe you are also too conscious about yourself and fear of saying an uncool or wrong thing, or you have little self confidence which in turn can be a turn off to the other s*x.

Answer 5

I have a problem both with small talk and serious talk. I can only talk about stupid, crazy things. I have social anxiety disorder...I have trouble thinking when I'm anxious and nervous.

Maybe you have it too.